I'm worried about my son's mental health. It all started around this time last year. I noticed a change in his behaviour. Prior that, he was always a happy, social young man who had the ability to strike up a conversation with anyone. But after his first year at uni and during the summer holiday last year, he became completely different. Much more introverted. He would spend an entire day in his room without even emerging from it. He barely spoke to me when he was outside of his room.
I've asked him several times whether he's feeling okay. He simply mutters "I'm fine." A few days ago I asked him again and he blew the lid, telling me to "leave him the fk alone." I also think he's smoking marijuana. I've never smoked it but when I was in my teens, people around me did. I know that smell. My son walked passed me a couple of days ago and the weed smell coming from him was unmistakable.
Yesterday I found him in the living room, watching the news. The tragic story about the downed Malaysian aircraft was on. My son burst into tears and said, "this fking world," and got up and quickly left the house. He didn't come back until late at night. When I asked him where he was, he simply said "somewhere."
The other day he told me he doesn't know who he is because of his racial and ethnic background. I'm half white and half Oriental Asian and his father was half black and half Latino. My son's father was Brazilian - he passed away when my son was 2 due to lung cancer. His father was also an orphan when he was a child, so there are no relatives from his side of the family. I know that he's always missed his father, like I do, and he's always wanted to know about his story. However, in the past, he's always been proud of his mixed background, so what he told me about not knowing himself surprised me.
I'm very worried. When I was 19, my brother committed suicide and he exhibited similar behaviour. He became very withdrawn. He put up a wall around himself, just like my son is doing now.
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Extremely worried about my son's mental health
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goonermother · 19/07/2014 18:49
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