why cant i cope?

[diamond457]

Recently ive been feeling stressed, ignoring it and telling myself i will get a grip. I have became so low over the past few days i feel like all i want to do is sleep. My job is stressing me out even though i only work normally three days a week, but its every weekend and now they want me to do holiday cover which means i will be working ten days in a row, hardly see my dd or dp. My job is high pressured with a lot of responsibility and i don't think its suitable anymore which is why im currently job hunting. That is mostly why im stressed. I don't know why in getting myself in such a state, people have bigger problems. I am so low that i don't have the energy to cook tea, we just got a takeaway.
i would love another baby but dp isn't keen and the house is too small, my job future is uncertain. That is also making me feel down. I feel like i have nothing to look forward to. Nobody i talk to seems to understand how bad i feel i just get told to calm down. Dr said my blood pressure is higher than it should be but i haven't told him about the stress yet, i just thought i could manage. I don't know what to do.

[bluebell345]

I think the things that are out of our control stress us much and long term they are causing depression.
if your feeling like this continues longer maybe you should approach your gp about it and see what is available to help you to overcome it.
hope you will feel better soon.

[diamond457]

Thankyou. Yes i suppose the things that are out of our control are always the worst. The things i can control, i can make those changes for a happier future, i just have to accept that career changing is no easy thing and its going to involve stress but hopefully have a happier outcome. I just wish my dp wasn't so laid back sometimes, nothing stresses him out, he doesn't plan for the future. He just goes with the flow which is frustrating when i want to make plans but he has the lets just wait and see approach! I don't want to wait, i want to know what im going to be doing with my life in the next couple of years!

[scottishmummy]

Sorry you've been feeling low
Consider that you're possibly expecting too many answers,not many of us gets certainty
Think about your nutrition.food affects mood.try to make fresh food,bruschetta,pasta sauce
Take change in small manageable chunks,set achievable career tasks,take note of your successes
Depression affects the cognitive aspect of how we recall events,recalling the negative,minimising the positive

[diamond457]

I bought vitamins today to try and help give me a boost. I cook from scratch which i love and makes me happy but when i feel like this its like i give up. I don't want to cook, i get disorganised, i let things slip which makes me even more unhappy. I keep telling myself in young, i can drive, i can apply for more suitable jobs while i still have my current job. I just need to remember there are people worse off, doing jobs far less glamorous than mine. People who have no choice than to work full time to support their family. I just need to come home tomorrow happy and be grateful for what i do have.

[scottishmummy]

Cook and freeze,so on days you're less inclined,you've got own food to eat
Yes you're right,you do have +ve aspects and things you'd like to improve/change
Set realistic goals,note things you've done well,