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Anxiety help

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RollerCola · 16/07/2014 18:24

I've been diagnosed with low level depression twice in the last 6 years, both times I was having a very difficult time at home and each time a year of 30mg citalopram really helped and got me back on track.

The second time was last year when I separated from my husband. Once he'd left my home life improved drastically and I felt that I didn't need the tablets any more so I stopped.

Life since then has been brilliant, more relaxed, kids happy, much much better. I felt a dark cloud lift as soon as he'd gone and everything was fine. That was almost a year ago.

However, in the last few months I've been feeling increasingly anxious. I can't put it down to anything so I'm confused as to why it's happening. I've been keeping busy which helps but at times when I'm alone (in the car usually) I get very panicky and tearful. I overthink almost everything and sometimes have a horrible feeling of dread.

In the past when I've felt bad I've assumed that it's caused by an actual event or situation that I just don't have any control over (relationship breakdown) but this time it's different because the previous cause has now gone.

I worry about everything, particularly the kids. I can't stop feeling guilty about the breakup of my marriage (it was a mutual decision, so no real blame) and how it may affect the kids. I've met a new man but I'm terrified to move on with him because of this anxiousness. I drive to work in tears, then dust myself down and get on with the day.

Is this still depression, anxiety or just stress? What can I take to make it go away? I've tried rescue remedy & kalms but they haven't helped. I'm wondering if citalopram would help again, but I don't have that overwhelming feeling of sadness this time. In fact I do feel happy most of the time but with this mixed up panicky feeling as well.

Can anyone help?

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diamond457 · 17/07/2014 21:51

See your gp and see what he says. When you feel like that drink peppermint tea, its calming, only thing that temporarily works for me.
you are probably anxious because your seeing a new person, you must worry about the future and if he is a suitable match for you and your kids. There is all that relationship politics at the start of a relationship, getting to know them etc. When you were married you thought that was going to be it, happy ever after. Don't feel guilty, lots of marriages fail and as long as you are both there for the kids and not at eachothers throats every two mins then that's got to be a good thing.

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RollerCola · 18/07/2014 00:04

Thank you, I think it's a combination of things. Yes a new relationship and the worries it brings, fear of disrupting the kids lives, the stress of doing everything at home myself plus working full time, and I think my hormones are a big cause as well.

It's just getting me down because for a while I've felt great - after getting over the decision to divorce and sorting finances out etc I felt better than I have in years. It's like the stress of it all has been delayed and is only just hitting me now.

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