Tips on coping when your life doesn't feel real?

[buttonortwo]

Had traumatic 6 or so years, not all of it but lots of life changing events, baby, marriage breakdown, divorce, new relationship with ea/ controlling, miscarriage and end of that relationship. I feel quite disorientated at times, however do manage to hold down job and cope most of time being a single parent.
The problem I have right now is that it doesn't feel real. My divorced parents ( yrs ago) don't ask or acknowledge. I have friends but cutting myself off from talking. I've become used to 'switching off' and detaching but not sure this is healthy, almost denying to myself any of this has happened. I'm struggling to get perspective at times. I'm unhappy and it would be lovely to experience some joy in life. Where do I start?

[settingsitting]

Am bumping.

Have a word with your GP?

[lookbutdonttouch]

Hi, I came on here to use the words 'detached' and 'switching off'. You aren't alone. It seems to be the way I deal with stress and horrible situations, or certainly how I deal after events.

I should be happy, giddy with happiness, but I'm not. I had an awful breakup of a long term relationship and now I'm with someone who is just wonderful. But there is a but. I don't feel like I should, I feel out if place and my reactions are totally off.

I agree with the pp, go to the docs, I will be I reckon before I damage my relationships with those around me any further.

Good luck.

[Snog]

Sounds like you have been through a lot and not surprisingly could do with some support.

Your GP should be able to offer the options of anti depressant meds and/or counselling.
Mindfulness can be good for rediscovering joy in your life and tapping therapy for freeing yourself of unwanted emotions from the past. Free resources for both on the internet.
Mainly I would say be kind to yourself and behave to yourself like a best friend would