I just cannot work out what I am feeling at the moment and constantly doubt myself. I have a history of mild general anxiety which comes in waves, leaving me frozen in indecision, needing duvet days, not knowing what to do or where to start with things like housekeeping, paperwork, business matters. I find that I need a lot of space, and enjoy my own space, my own time, my own thoughts. I cannot function when things get too hectic and meltdown internally.
This year has been tough. My grandad died in February from a preventable illness and there are 2 inquiries ongoing at the hospital which are due to conclude in the next 6 weeks. I have a lovely group of fairly new friends but feel awful as they are so positive, lively, social, enthusiastic, and I just don't always feel like I fit. I am sometimes like this, but not always and cannot keep up the constant cheer leader level of life loving! They are always asking if I am ok if I want a day on my own or don't want to come round for drinks, BBQ etc.
I like the quiet life, have a wonderful life with dd and dp, and really just wonder if in fact I need to go easy on myself. I always feel like I am wrong, but the new girly gang I seem to be in are so not what I normally get into.
I have just turned down a weekend in Spain, not because I don't love the idea of a weekend away, but because I have over analysed and worried myself into not going. I can't bear the thought of the build up, the shopping, the comparing clothes, packing ideas, countdown! If we could just book it and go, then great, but it's all the bouncing about which I find hard.
God I sound like such a misery! I'm self employed and not earning enough to pay for myself so would have to ask dp. Whilst he says its fine, I don't want to. I just feel like I need to back away from it all, the socialising is just too much for me.
I don't know what's going on, my gut says I'm fine, it's ok, but my mind says I am stupid, boring. The year has been so tough, I need a retreat!
Don't know why I'm posting, just needed to write it down before I pop
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Mental health
So confused and can't see the logic in my own feelings
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CheesyBadger · 06/07/2014 18:54
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