I've 2 children, work for myself (I support the family) and am at the end of my tether.My partner and I have been having problems for at least 3 years, and it's got to the stage now where every time we disagree he says that it's just another nail in the coffin. In other words he's just waiting for the time when it's all over. I find him impossible to talk to - even about little insignificant things, as he always seems critical or difficult (eg if I'm trying to sort drop offs/pick ups from school etc)plus he's always intimating that I'm having affairs (which I'm not) added to snide comments or veiled digs when the kids are around so I can't respond....I could go on and on...I've always been 100% stay together if you've got children, but now I honestly don't know. I asked him to go to counselling with me which he said he'd do, but would sit in silence - wouldn't say a word. I'm feel so miserable all the time and just pretend everything's OK - just live for the days when the kids are around, then fall into depression the rest of the time - consequently work is suffering and I'm sure the children are picking up on the vibes. My health's not great either and i feel i get no support from him on this...I'm pretty sure i could manage financially, but can I really break up a family just because I'm unhappy? I keep trying to put my concerns to one side and do my best to be accomodating...all will be fine for a while, then we fall out and have another row and he says the most awful things - like our youngest isn't his (which isn't true)...he's said this many times...I feel so on my own...my mum died 3 years ago and I'm sure I'm not over that, and I feel unable to talk to my friends because I'm almost ashamed of how bad things have got...any advice would be great...please
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