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Having a very bad time

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GeraldineAubergine · 05/05/2013 21:45

Hi, I had a m/c at 14 weeks in December. When this happened my best friend just blanked me, didn't help at all. I had a breakdown I suppose and was off work for three months. After starting sertraline 100mg I felt like I was coming out of the other side, I even made friends with my b/f. Since we made friends again she has been acting like I'm hassling her and tonight I lost it and fell out with her irreparably. I feel like now I'm back to square one, like I deserve all these bad things that have happened. I feel very alone, and can see signs of everything going wrong again. I just wanted to tell somebody.

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ssd · 05/05/2013 22:23

geraldine, I'm sorry. I haven't any experience of m/c but I do know what its like to feel alone. Its horrible. You're best friend doesn't sound very nice, at all. when we go through shit we need people beside us to hold out hands, not crap on you from a great height, which it sounds like she has done. I think you need to stop thinking of her as a best friend, and see her more as an acquaintance. I know its not easy, but try to make other friends, the odds are one of them will be nicer than her.

its not your fault, any of this xx

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GeraldineAubergine · 05/05/2013 22:28

Thank you ssd for replying, it's made me cry. I'm very pathetic. I feel like if I could somehow be less me none of this stuff would happen. I feel very worried everything will go all wrong again after I was just getting back together, like there's a big weight in my chest. Ty for listening to me.

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Wolfiefan · 05/05/2013 22:33

You need support right now (not someone who says you are hassling them.) My first pg ended in a mmc. I can see how it could tip you down a very dark hole. I felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world.
Take all the time and get all the help you need.
Hand holding always available here.

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GeraldineAubergine · 05/05/2013 22:34

Thank you

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ssd · 06/05/2013 17:19

agree with the handholding.

might a visit to the gp/practise nurse be worth it?

I think you might be suffering from the mc and it might help to speak to someone about it, maybe some counselling would be helpful

I don't know if it would help too, but maybe try to post another thread asking for help after a mc, help with feelings and coming to terms with it, I bet they'd be loads of supporters here on mn who could sympathise and empathise too and might offer you more specific help with building up your confidence again, I'm not sure what section you'd post in, maybe contact MNHQ and ask for their advice?

xx

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