I have name changed for this one just want some advice. I am married to a lovely DH who is the child of hoarding parents. They had 3 kids the oldest two are unaffected and actually reject clutter etc but the youngest child my SiL is also a hoarder. Her house is filthy beyond belief, all her cups and plates are cracked and chipped, every surface is covered and she bulk buys and stores all over her house.
There are two children aged 11 and 13 they are very quiet children and seem to have lots of illnesses, now the youngest has symptoms that are like CFS and I am worried. With both now adolescents my DH says there is no way that friends could come 'round to visit.
They live 250 miles from us but my DH visited last week and he was very concerned......they prob wont listen to us. How would you help the family? Is there a good way to talk to hoarders? I wondered if I should talk to the non hoarding GPs but don't think they are close and they have always been a very self contained family.
In addition my SiL is the product of a non harmonious upbringing as a late addition she was always told by her parents that she was a mistake. I think my FiL is an narcissist and my MiL is an enabler. SiL has strong ideas about parenting and everything ....we are not close although I keep in touch through cards and gifts (money not knick-knacks) these are not reciprocated.
My concern is how to best support the DNs. Any advice would be gratefully received.
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cheekyangel · 08/04/2013 00:25
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