Dealing with paranoia....

[WannabeWilloughby]

Apologies if im posting in the wrong topic. Don't want to offend anyone who may think this is trivial!

I have always been a people pleaser. Don't like confrontation and want everyone to like me. Struggle to deal with the thought that someone might not like me! Id love to not care and be able to just switch it off, but it's hard.

I have started to feel a bit paranoid. (coincided with changing contraception). I worry that people are talking about me or that people think DH doesn't love me! I don't worry that DH doesn't love me, I know im his whole world but I worry that other people don't know it!! Why should it even matter? I know logically that people probably couldnt give a monkey's but it's a niggle that comes and goes.

It's totally irrational, I have no reason to feel like this at all. My mum was a people pleaser too and didn't want to ever upset anyone, I dont want to pass these traits onto my DC. Tips and advice would be brill.

[WannabeWilloughby]

would this be better posted in chat?

[SnowyMouse]

Have you thought about asking your GP or HV about your thoughts?

[amillionyears]

Yep, chat should give you some good ideas.

My take on it is this.

I know someone well [not me]
She thinks people are thinking and saying a b c d about her.
When I pointed out that actually they were thinking e d and f, she didnt mind.

What I am trying to say is that, chances are, they are not thinking what you think they are thinking about you. Often we are not the best judges of what we think others are really thinking about us.

hth