Hi there, I'm hoping that someone can help me by sharing their stories with me. I'm researching a new post for my blog //www.mummykindness.com. The blog is about ways that mums can be kinder to themselves and each other and it is inspired by my own ongoing struggles with PND.
I have a theory that even from as early on as pregnancy, we set expectations that are altogether too high. That detailed birth plans, for example, are setting us up to feel like failures from the moment we give birth . Perhaps strong pressure to breastfeed when it simply may not work for us only serves to make us feel inadequate from the off.
Some mums are lucky enough to be able to roll with the punches, take what is thrown at them and deal with it. I'm not one of them.
I'd really love to hear from fellow PND survivors, or any other mums really, to hear your views on whether you think the way your birth panned out, versus how you hoped it'd go, had a part to play in how confident you felt as a new mum. Â I'm wondering if there's anyone else like me who dreamed of beautiful, nurturing experiences of breastfeeding but found the reality to be very different indeed and whose PND started not long afterwards?
My view is that if we were all a bit more realistic with our expectations from the very beginning, we may realise and believe that our worth as a parent is not determined or measured by whether we managed to deliver a baby naturally or breastfeed exclusively for the first year (or countless other factors).
I'd really love your help and thoughts on this! Thank you in advance!!
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Mummykindnessrachel · 07/02/2013 14:35
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