When to stop therapy...

[Salbertina]

Wondering about this having had weekly psychotherapy for 9 months..feel he's getting impatient w me somehow and poss we've done me to death! Or is it just natural hiatus??
Issues mainly w relationships-parents, mainly.. Wondering if its foolish to think can go it alone and also don't want to end it badly... But £££ which we havent got plus relocating in 5 months anyway... Thoughts please?

[Salbertina]

Bump

[oldqueencrepey]

What sort of psychotherapy is this?
Think the person you ned to be sharing this with is your therapist! Highly relevant that you share these feelings about the relationship and your feeling about the therapy / therapist...

[Salbertina]

Am choosing to discuss on here as want to hear from others when/how they knew when to leave...

[oldqueencrepey]

if you are in therapy because of difficulties with relationships then it's not a surprise if you are finding the therapeutic relationship difficult... my suggestion to talk about this in your therapy was linked to that thought (patients will reproduce the pattern of their relationships in their therapy) and partly because the whole point about therapy is surely that it is a one on one individual experience... so knowing what other people felt / thought / did may not be of much help....

[Salbertina]

No need to analyse me thanks, thats what i pay my therapist for!
Am posting precisely because i want others' views
My issue is not relationships per se but managing difficult mother ..

Other experiences please?

[catwisd]

I think you'll know when to stop. Between sessions do you find yourself turning over thoughts/questions/experiences/memories/dreams or whatever that you feel you want to discuss with your therapist, and look forward to it? After the sessions, do you feel like you've accomplished something?

Can you take a month off and see if you miss it?

[Salbertina]

Am trying not to overreact but i really need to point out that its wise to avoid jumping to conclusions - i have had a v good relationship w my therapist to date... That was NOT the issue, rather that therapy may have run its course.

Am assuming you are some kind of therapist?

[Salbertina]

Sorry that was to Oldqueen

[Salbertina]

Thanks,cats - yes, i have felt that til now. But last session felt same old same old and wondering whether i now need to move on alone reflect/journal/maintain equilibrium via exercise etc. money a huge factor also. Just cannot justify longterm

[catwisd]

ask therapist if you could slow down to every other week?

[Salbertina]

Yes might just do that. Have you tried this yourself?

[Salbertina]

Can't help doubting the longterm process for some inc me one gigantic but v lucrative cycle of misery in the professionals' interest to perpetuate?

[WithanAnotE]

Salbertina It depends on the type of therapy. For example, CBT aims to provide you with a tool kit that you can use to solve your own problems so has a much more finite learning life span with a therapist.
Psychoanalysis, however, can range from months to years, depending on the complexity of your history or your readiness to share etc.
What type of therapy are you receiving?
Your therapist should have also established therapy goals for you at the outset based on their initial assessment. Best bet is to discuss with your therapist.

[Salbertina]

Hi there
It's psychotherapy so am aware rather different from CBT in terms of both depth and likely timelines.No specific goals defined but clear focus. Yes will discuss w him direct. Am going to be stopping in due course anyway due to relocation so its a matter of when.

[WithanAnotE]

Something a friend of mine did was change her 1 hour weekly sessions to 30 mins. A sort of tapering off after many months of therapy, plus half the cost.