What is wrong with me

[Princess99]

I've never done anythin like this before and to be quite honest i'm new to this whole internet thing, I have no one i can really talk to or at least nobody that i want knowing how i'm feeling at the moment.
I have the perfect life, a lovely house with all the modd cons, a perfect partner handsome, supportive, loving, i have two perfect daughters, my eldest is 6 years old and my newest addition whos only 4 months, so you would think that i had nothing to worry about so why do i feel so so sad. I cant get up in a morning i find it hard to go anywhere,i get anxious and worry alot, i cry for almost 15 hours a day, i look like a right scruff bag(all day) because i cant be bothered with myself.

What is wrong with me

[WigWamBam]

Sounds like post-natal depression. Please go and see your GP and get some help for this.

Have a chat with your HV as well, she may be able to support you through this too.

[Lmccrean]

Oh, Im so sorry to hear that. How long have you felt like this? Just since your 2nd dd arrrived, or before?

[Lmccrean]

agree with wwb if it is just since ur dd was born..i see a councillor (once a month now, but it was every week for a few months after dd was born) and just being able to talk to someone who i wasnt related to, or friends with, made a huge difference

[WigWamBam]

Even if it's come on suddenly it could still be PND; in some cases it can be months after the baby is born before it kicks in - my dd was 8 months old before mine started.

Please go and see your GP, don't suffer like this any more.

[Princess99]

I've been feeling like this for about 2 months now, I started with baby blues about 4 or 5 days after and it has'nt really gone away.
I just don't feel the same, thanks for the advice i think its time to stop kiddin myself and get help. I kinda thought these feelings would pass as its nothing to do with the baby, is pnd when you cant cope with the baby and other baby related issues?
Cos I cant cope with myself...... waking up knowing i'm not "me" anymore how do i get "me"back....
Has anyone been through the same? And how long does this last? I never had it with my first so why with my second, "i dont understand"

[WigWamBam]

PND isn't just about not coping with the baby; in fact, for many people with PND, the only thing they do cope with is the baby.

PND is just like any other form of depression, and it won't go away on its own. Don't try and understand it; you'll be here forever and a day if you try to rationalise it. It's not rational.

[WigWamBam]

Have a look at this from the Association for Post-Natal Illness site. You might find it interesting and helpful. There's other stuff that might help you on other parts of the site as well.

[Princess99]

Thanx for this wigwambam, looking things up now on pnd and i'll seek help from my GP x x

[WigWamBam]

Talking about things can help, too, and there's always someone here to listen, if you need to talk.