I gave birth by emergency c-section a little while ago and have been suffering from complications from it ever since. These complications are starting to get better but the bad thoughts about my birth are starting to come through. I was induced and it took 2 days to get to 10cm dilated- only to be told that my baby was stuck anyway, they were going to try ventouse or forceps but my baby started to get distressed so I was prepped for a c-section. Basically I felt like a piece of meat being poked about left right and centre, at one point I was laid out on the table totally naked with about 10 people milling about in the room. Now I'm not usually squeamish but I was totally unprepared for a birth so totally taken out of my control- I basically was tied to a monitor for 2 days and then operated on, so I feel really disappointed and this may sound crazy, but really robbed of the whole birth experience that I had been anticipating, pain and all. I am now finding myself thinking about it a lot- my friend has just had a baby the natural way and I found myself really upset by it. My baby was taken away anyway as soon as she was born to scbu, only for ten minutes but I missed out on the first moments bit too. I love my baby with all my heart and I am so happy to be a mum, so we have bonded like glue anyway, but I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it because they all say 'oh well, it was all worth it in the end', which obviously doesn't help.
Has anyone had a similar experience? Or any words of advice? Thanks for reading this anyway.
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feeling down after c-section, any advice? sorry it's long...
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bigbertha · 01/11/2005 15:14
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