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getting married soon but

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liandme · 13/10/2005 15:17

i am getting married in 16 days but everything seems to be getting me down, my mum is really ill, my brother moved to cyprus at the weekend and wont be at my wedding my sister is moving to germany on 21st oct and i wont get to say goodbye before she goes and she wont be at the wedding althought she was supposed to be my maid of honour, i started my dream job 4 weeks ago and have been put on loads of courses and had to go to college one day a week, i also work at the weekend so i am only getting one day off a week which is today and i have spent most of it cleaning and doing washing because most of my evenings are filled with study, my dp cant seem to do anything right but moan because i am always at work and not doing stuff at home i know this is proberly nerves but i dont feel excited about the wedding at all i just want to get it over with so we can go back to plodding along with our lives as usual, i feel so ungrateful for all the work that has gone into our day. i love my new job and it really is a dream come true and i am giving it 110% but then i feel guity cos i am not at home doing the cleaning and stuff.
i know most people will look at this and say i am being silly and ungrateful but i dont seem to be able to get out of this rut

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gravity · 14/10/2005 12:25

You know what......... your about to be a new bride!!!!! Plus you have a heap going on!!! Make sure to get some Zovirax. (I got a Cold Sore the week before wedding) plus dont leave any facials til too close.......now is probably right time. You could have break out from the facila removing any impurities.

I know its not possible but try to get a few days to yourself.

My advice might be worth crap to you. But I think you are reacting as all brides-to-be do.......... xxxxxxxx

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gravity · 14/10/2005 12:26

ps - TYPO!! that is facial not facila (it sounds like some new horriffic ailment otherwise!!!!!)

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koalabear · 14/10/2005 12:35

liandme

things to be grateful for:

1a. you have a man who loves you so much that he is going to get up in public and say so

1b. you are in love with a man that you are prepared to make a life long commitment to him (some people search their whole life and never find such contentment)

2. you are employed

3. you are employed in your "dream job"

4. you employer is actually supporting your partipcation in courses which will increase your value as an employee

5. you've been accepted into college to do a course one day a week (when loads of people apply, and are turned down)

6. you have a family, even if they are scattered to the four winds

As for the being stressed, of course - a new job is enough without the stress of a marriage on top of it

IMO, you should be a little kinder to yourself, and not expect life at home to be perfect when you are working all hours that are available. Can you get a cleaner, or work out to split chores with your partner?

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gravity · 14/10/2005 12:39

well put koalabear - hang about...... fellow aussie alert!!!! hiya!!! gday!!!!

liandme - i think you have alot of positives working in your favour - enjoy sweetheart! but most importantly enjoy your big day and great man!!!! let the house fall apart for a couple of days (god i sound terribly untidy) xxxxxxxxx

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koalabear · 14/10/2005 15:36

where art you from then fellow Oz person?

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gravity · 14/10/2005 15:45

how exciting!!!!!! west aussie....originally from esperance. now in perth. you??????

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koalabear · 16/10/2005 19:34

oh, melbourne, now in Oxfordshire UK

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