I got pregnant very early on in my marriage and made a decision to have an abortion. I regret it and wish I could go back in time and change it, i keep thinking what my baby would look like. I only have my husband to talk to this about as i haven't told any of my family or friends.
We'd only been married for a short time when i found out, and we were living with my inlaws, MIL was (and still is) a complete bitch. she made my life hell: she would ring my husband up in work to complain about small things such as how i've folded the laundry etc, she made me feel that i was worthless as i moved to the area after marriage and couldn't get a job, one time a marriage proposal came for my husband (we're Indian!) and she took the phone call right in front of me and said "He's got married now but if you had phoned a few months ago that would have been amazing your Daughter sounds just like what we were looking for" i was so upset with this as she always made me feel i was not good enough for her son. She could have taken the phone call in another room but no she had to take it right infront of me so i could hear her.
Living with my in-laws was the most darkest time of my life and looking back i realise i was really depressed. We couldn't afford to move out just on my husband's salary and definitely couldn't move out if we had a baby too. so we both decided to have an abortion.
We are now living in our own place and i've got a job so we are stable but we've been trying for 10 months to get pregnant and nothing is happening, i keep thinking this is my punishment for having an abortion. My bitch mother-in-law keeps bringing up the subject of how we are getting old and should start a family i feel like punching her and telling her i would have had a baby now if she hadn't put me in a depression and tried to break my marriage up. I really hate her and wish i could tell her what she led us to do. Things would have been so different if she had accepted me into the family and not made me feel like a spare part. We could have carried on living with them until we could afford it and i would have had a little baby now. What annoys me more is that my husband seems to have forgotten how miserable his mother made us both, I suppose he has to have a relationship with them as they're his parents.
I don't really know what i am looking for on here maybe I just needed to tell someone or maybe ask advice on why I'm not getting pregnant now, whereas I got pregnant before. I don't really know but i feel like I'm going crazy. Also I am thinking of telling my Mum about my abortion but my husband thinks i shouldn't tell anyone - what do you think? Is it best to keep this secret or should i share with my family? I'm afraid what they're reaction will be.
Thank You and sorry for such a long post!
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I had an abortion and regret it
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Aug03 · 06/08/2013 16:58
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