Horrible situation at work........sigh

[lisalisa]

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[1dilemma]

Nothing great to say sorry but didn't want you to go unanswered!
I resigned today too (and was thinking about posting my ennui on here)

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[1dilemma]

Agree snr partner will prob do noting he can't afford to upset T
You can't do much if someone claims your work as theres it will all come out in the wash anyway and she will get rumbled.
Just rise above it.
Is your new job more of the same (work not T!!) WIll you get Christmas off?

[SaintJude]

oh its hard when you have a situation in a place where you spend a large proportion of your waking hours.

Just try and ride it out until you move on in January.

[Carmenere]

Hang on, you have resigned and you have a new position already?? Happy days, let the games begin. I would make my feelings very clear in a light and airy manner with a sickly sweet smile and particularly in front of other people.
Kind of like on here when people are nasty and then put a enjoy, you are in a position of power.

[lisalisa]

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[lisalisa]

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[Carmenere]

Oh I would just make references to the project you brought to fruition.

[lisalisa]

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[1dilemma]

This is surely the time to ask publically 'what did you mean when you said XXX?' or if there is a shred of her own idea in there 'don't you think it would be better if we did x not y?'
Then walk out with your head held high (will it all then flounder without you?)

[Carmenere]

It is not ok to be unprofessional, your reputation is paramount, particularly in a field like yours BUT you are allowed to be human and it is unlikely that this womans attitude has gone unnoticed by others. a few wry comments without being petty or childish should do it and won't harm your reference.

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[1dilemma]

Don't think e-mail will spoil reference
a) snr partner knows you're good
b) no point upsetting you-you're leaving
c) aren't you lawyers even more conscious of the need to back up everything said in references with facts and therefore tend to say little IYSWIM
d) if like most men he would have been terrified of fight and not want to hinder your departure

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[1dilemma]

oops love the accidental e-mail idea that's a good one!

[lisalisa]

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[WideWebWitch]

Hello LisaLisa, sorry it's shit, but hooray that you have something else. I agree with Carmenere in that you could have some fun with this but you ABSOLUTELY MUST NOT LET IT/HER RATTLE you.

Part of me thinks discretion is the better part of valour and another part of me is always desp to send emails to people I think are wankers telling them so when I'm about to leave and know I'll never have to work with them again. Except you never do know, really, so I never have yet and in some ways it IS the right thing to do, maintaining professionalism and the moral high ground etc.

So I would dress up anything you have to say as 'feedback' and put some effort into writing the kind of feedback that could be considered constructive. Or not.

Also, this may make you laugh, see my See you next tues post of Tue 14-Aug-07 21:24:37 here

[starfish2]

lisalisa, cool down!
She is conveniently working from home today, so that gives you time to not have to look at her at all today and chill. A bit.
You are leaving, hopefully for a much better job and place, you can afford to look 'magnanimous'. Stay very quiet and calm in front of her, do not speak unless you need to. (You can think whatever you want, but she should not know )

Do talk to your boss, and take it from there. I'm sure you have plenty of people around that have noticed her behaviour, including your boss.

If things escalate, make sure they are escalating because of her, not you. When people provoke something it is because they want a reaction, the best thing to do is not to react. That'll also infuriate her a bit more and you'll look calm and collected.

[lisalisa]

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[Carmenere]

Oh well, maybe he had it coming to him, it's done now so don't stress, you'll be out of there soon.
Was he sympathetic at all, and don't forget, allowing someone to take credit for your work without objecting would generally be seen as a flaw in the work place. You are allowed stand up for yourself.

[3littlebats]

We had a woman like this at work. Lazy, passed off other people's work as her own - literally copied and pasted reports, project plans etc. She had got her promotion because she was having an affair with someone in a senior position. Eventually she got a very senior position elsewhere and didn't have any cronies to carry her....she was rumbled and sacked PDQ.

Oh how we laughed....

I do try to believe that people like this will get their comeuppance one day.