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I've had it with work - really can't face going in again tomorrow night..........

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 12:16

so am going to call the Dr.s tomorrow and try and get an appointment ASAP and ask him to sign me off sick for the next 3 weeks......that's all I have left before I go on Annual Leave, leading straight onto Mat Leave.

Basically it's the same old cr*p as before - but with a the new supervisor (who is majorly disliked by 90% of the other staff!). She called me last night (at work) at 10.30pm (so just 45 minutes into a 9 1/4hr shift) to tell me she was going to reporting me to the manager for "neglect and abuse" as one of the residents was soaking wet, and didn't have her buzzer (apparently) close by after she was checked once us night girls had gone off shift.

That's the basic gist of it anyhow.

I managed to get on with my shift, but felt really upset and was actually physically sick from the stress part way through the night.

I wrote my manager a long letter, firstly explaining my side of the story (before it's even been reported to her ) and telling her that seen as though I was 99.9999999% certain that she would now issue me with a final warning not to bother calling me in to see her (I have nothing more to add about the alledged 'neglect and abuse') but just to put the letter in the post to me.

Presuming that work doesn't decide that I've now had a "serious misconduct" (or make one up from the letter I sent.....) and decide to fire me I've "only" got 9 nights left to work - but I genuinely can't face it. I seem to spend all my waking time stressing about work, and the throwing up because I was so stressed and upset about it was the final straw.

I really can't be doing with this anymore, especially not being nearly 28 weeks pg and all......

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MarsLady · 11/03/2007 12:36

Will find out the best way for you to proceed when H gets back from the football if you like.

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 12:44

thanks Mars -

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 13:45

oh bgger - can't stop thinking about that bldy place, SO* want to call my manager and tell her to stick my job where the sun don't shine......

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Maddison · 11/03/2007 13:47

I don't know what crap has gone one before, but I assume you are sort of being bullied at work by a superior??

I really feel for you if this is the case (well, I feel for you anyway, I know it's not nice being so unhappy at work) as DH is going through a similar thing at the moment.

Hope you get in to see the dr tomorrow xx

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 14:10

yes my manager and the owner are a right pain in the ar*e and it's driving me to distraction

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MarsLady · 11/03/2007 16:35

Have you sent the letter?

Dh says that you shouldn't send it. If you refute what you've been accused of then you should call for a one to one meeting with your manager to look at the evidence as to why you've been accused of neglect. And the manager needs to provide evidence that you have done something wrong ie neglect or abuse. You should wait for evidence to be provided to show that you are actually guilty otherwise all it is is a case of harrassment if you are proved not to be guilty.

So FA... it's down to you really. If you can stand against the allegations then you should! If the letter is not sent then phone, write, email your manager for a one to one and let us know how it goes.

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incy · 11/03/2007 16:46

Personally I would go to the doctors first thing tomorrow and get signed off sick as you are clearly upset and this can't be helping your pregnancy.

When you call in sick, ask to speak to your manager and explain you feel bullied and very stressed and would like a one to one chat with her about everything that has happened.

Before the meeting write everything down and take this along to the meeting.

Don't resign, don't send a letter - you are being bullied and you deserve a chance to put your side of the story across after you have calmed down.

Poor you.

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 17:39

Mars - yes I put the letter under her office door last night while at work. TBH it's the latest in a string of incidents and I'm just hacked off with them.

I've already decided not to go back after my Mat Leave - but of course they don't know that.

Problem is its my Manager I'm having the issues with - and being in a small private Care Home there's no-one else I can actually speak to (apart from my fantastic Night Supervisor - who sadly holds no sway with the day Supervisors/Manager/Owner).

I've had plenty of "one to one" meetings with her before and I, quite frankly, can't stand the thought of another one - hence the reason I said in my letter my side of the story, and told her that she's welcome to come and speak to me while I'm at work (ie she'd have to come in at night) or just send the final warning letter.........it won't matter anyhow as I'll be gone soon!

I've done my maths and I've decided I'm calling in sick tomorrow, then shall get an appointment sometimes early this week - I was worried about losing 3 nights pay (as SSP doesn't start until you've been off for a week) but I can afford it so I don't care.

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nikkie · 11/03/2007 19:40

FA I was wondering about you last night, was hoping since hadn't seen you on here it was ok now
gte signed off, and chilll out fo r a few days before deciding what to do next, keepposting as there will be a few people on here who may be able to help you.

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MarsLady · 11/03/2007 19:44

Dh works for a small private care home as well and he manages the managers.

He said that what he says stands, but that only you can make the decision. Surely there is someone above that manager? But you clearly want shot of the whole thing so I hope it all works out for you.

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chocolatekimmy · 11/03/2007 21:07

Hope you are ok.

Get signed off and try to relax and chill out then it will lead into maternity leave which hopefully you can enjoy.

If they attempt to start an investigation (with view to taking disciplinary action), you just tell them that you are too sick to attend. Basically they are f**d then and can't do anything. If they decided to hold a hearing and make a decision in your absence, you would still have the right to appeal. If you got a final warning, who cares if you are off anyway and not going back or if they dismissed, it is likely that it would be an unfair dismissal in which case you could make a claim at tribunal.

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fannyannie · 11/03/2007 22:24

Mars - the only person above the Manager is the Owner, who is just as bad as she is .

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fannyannie · 12/03/2007 11:50

Well I (for once) managed to get comfortable last night and had a decent nights sleep.

Tried to get a Dr.s appointment and it's a bl**dy nightmare. So..........I've decided to go to work tonight after all.

I'm not going to let them beat me, and I'm sure they're hoping that I'll just "up and leave" - but I'm not going to make it that easy for them.

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Greensleeves · 12/03/2007 12:21

It sounds awful FA . In fact it sounds almost like constructive dismissal - but I imagine you're not looking for a long drawn-out dispute right now. I hope you manage to stick it out until you can start your maternity leave.

The manager sounds like a bully.

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fannyannie · 12/03/2007 12:23

she's a right btch - wouldn't be suprised to find her there at 9.45 when I get to work to talk to me............I put in the letter that I couldn't come in during the day and if she wished to speak to me then it would have to be during my* working hours .

Mind you she may decide to try and get me at 7am tomorrow morning before I leave.....but then I shan't stay on.

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