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Too heartbroken to make a rational decision

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 22:52

I teach part time and had always been given the impression that I could increase my hours every year to to teach full time eventually. Anyone who has seen me post in the education section would know that I am passionate about state education and adore my school.

Our school is bancrupt though and we are laying off staff and I have been told that my hours cannot increase. I was counting on my hours increasing to help make our financial situation a bit easier, housework is a real issue at home and something dp and I fall out about as I am very career focussed and do not do my share if I am honest so an aupair was about to start, we cannot afford her if I am not going to get a pay rise soon. May sound minor and a tad spoilt of me but I do struggle to balance working in a job that is demanding and running a house and the aupair was going to relive a lot of tension in the house. THere are also a lot of jobs that need doing on the house and paying for those needs me to be earning more money which I was expecting to do next year,

There is a full time job going in a school not to faraway, but not as conveniently close as my present school, that offers me more chance of career development, job security and the full time pay packet.

But I love the school I teach at presently and I know I won't be replaced which will land my head of department in it and my students will be taught badly by non specialists, including two of my gcse classes. I teach in a very tough school where teachers come and go and it has taken my students a long time to trust me and the thought of telling them that I may be leaving breaks my heart. I am in tears at the thought of leaving and we can live on dp wage and my part time one but life wqould be so much easier if I was working full time. What would you do?

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NurseyJo · 02/03/2007 22:56

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maisym · 02/03/2007 22:56

difficult - my reaction is to go for the other job. More money, career & job security. You love to teach & would be able to continue to do this.

edam · 02/03/2007 22:57

Oh gosh, that is a hard one, isn't it? No idea what I'd do. But you could try thinking about yourself in ten years' time. If you were looking back then, which would you regret more - moving or staying?

twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 22:57

I teach three full days and do some family support work one morning and one afternoon, teaching full time would mean that I would have to give up my other job as well.

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CanSleepWeirdShifts · 02/03/2007 22:57

Was going to suggest similar to NJ - keep existing, but get another part time job too, or take on after school tuition.

twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 22:58

I had not thought of supply, but I don't think I would get supply for my subject.

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:00

I was hoping though to teach four days from september and reduce or compact my other job down to one day so I am leaving that post gradually as it has links with my school, being within the same community and also means a lot to me.

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Gingerbear · 02/03/2007 23:00

Can't you get a cleaner for one day per week instead of an au pair?

Gingerbear · 02/03/2007 23:01

Is there no chance of the financial situation at the school improving in future?

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:02

Well in ten years time I will have emigrated so I am not sure what I would feel.REally wanted to see my form through to year eleven and then hand in my notice and emigrate. Another reason why I don't want to leave current job as I know that I am only planning to teach here another four years unless something amazing happens here and I decise to stay.

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:03

There is a very very slim chance of the schools financial situation improving but there is a greater chance of it getting worse and more people being aksed to leave, and I could be one of them.

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:04

I don't have a spare day, I ahve a few spare hours a week as I do have another job. AsI said earlier I was planning on handing over my one of my projects to make way for one more days teaching.

I don;t drive which limits me from doing anymore work in the field of family support thatI currently work in.

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SlightlyMadScientist · 02/03/2007 23:04

If it was me... I think I would go for the increased secruity at the new school

Gingerbear · 02/03/2007 23:05

I think you have to think with your head and not your heart.

twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:05

Welooked at getting a cleaner one day a week, but to be honest by the time we have added the costof dd childcare before and after school to the costof a cleaner there isn't much difference in having an aupair.

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CanSleepWeirdShifts · 02/03/2007 23:07

Given your last post, I think you should go for the new job, as your family has to come before the kids at school, and if there's a real possibility that you could be out of a job altogether if you stay there, then it might, sadly, be time to jump ship.

CanSleepWeirdShifts · 02/03/2007 23:08

By 'last post' I meant the one at 23:03:13

twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:08

Gingerbear and SlightlyMadScientist I ahve a horrible feeling you are right but I can't bear to think about leaving.

It is the job security thatI need and TBH if I could stay atymy present school and all I lost was the aupair I would stay in flash.

Although it would be greatto not have to watch the pennies as much as we do, I just feel so selfish putting my economics before my students.

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:10

THis is heartbreaking I have had to teach all day on the verge of tears.

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SlightlyMadScientist · 02/03/2007 23:11

At the end of the day you and your family have to come first. Your students could come a close second - but you must come first.

Go for the new job. You might not get and then your dilema is solved...

twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:13

I am going to visit the school hoping thatI hate it and am applying as the deadlie is next week (although I may withdraw) hoping that I don't get it, but I ahve never gone for a job interview and not got the job and I ahve a feeling that I am what they are looking for. The only thing going against me is that an NQT is much cheaper.

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twinsetandpearls · 02/03/2007 23:15

SlightlyMadScientist you are right thatmy family come first but dd will not suffer mby me staying where I am, we may ahve less the house may be untidy but she will not go without.

But if I leave these kids they will go without a proper teacher and I will be one in a long line of people who has let them down.

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SlightlyMadScientist · 02/03/2007 23:16

Bad luck needed then????

Seriously you have your future has to be your prime concern.

SlightlyMadScientist · 02/03/2007 23:18

Yeah but if you don't have job security where you are - if you might actually loose your job in 6m - then where will you be?

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