Hi, first time I've ever posted on MNs. Here goes : Sorry its so long,
I started a new part time job last February. Before I'd worked full time, quite senior, but wanted to shift into slower gear. Initially it seemed ideal - small husband and wife firm, she was going on mat leave, they needed someone to do all the accounts and office stuff.
What a nightmare. He moans about her behind her back all the time. I never responded. The accounts were a mess, I fixed them all up. She came back to work a month ago, immediately reduced my hours (this was after he'd asked me to work extra) and generally had a face like a wet weekend on the few occasions I saw her. (In all I've only seen her 6 times).
Only me in the office, as he's out on site most of the time. He works 7 days a week, long days, it doesn't take a genius to see he's struggling. he even disappeared for a week during the summer. All through this I've been really flexible, working whatever hours he wanted me, he specifically said that he would have to get someone else if I couldn't do more than the initial 12 hours the job description said.
I never got a contract, it was supposed to be there on my first day (she'd told the agency she'd do it) then she went off to have the baby, he asked me to draft my own, which I did (I used to do this in my previous role) then he changed his mind, saying he'd employ HR consultant, it never happened.
So I decided life is too short, applied for another job, went for an interview last week and was offered it straight away. They'd interviewed loads. Its back to doing what I used to do before, but part time. Very well respected large organisation, I'm really looking forward to it. Was walking on air.
So... I told him I was moving on. He wanted to know why. I said I wanted something more stretching, he kept pushing for more reasons, but I didn't elaborate, stayed professional. He rang next morning, saying he'd had panic attack night before, how long could I stay for. I agreed end of next week, basically giving them two weeks.
Yesterday, she popped in for five minutes. Said I was not needed next week, finished within the hour, saying she'd get her "friend" who knows about HR to respond to employment reference letter and calculate my last pay.
I didn't get into any argument, left a formal letter confirming my resignation, emailed him to say it was confusing to be asked to stay, then told to go, and wished him and the business well.
Today he rings my mobile, and kicks off. Saying my email implied I expected to be paid for next week (I didn't !) He said I didn't have a contract so wasn't entitled to accrued holiday pay. He again pushed for my reasons for leaving. I said I felt uncomfortable with them bickering and she made no attempt to be in any way friendly. He became very snide and sarcastic, saying that the problem was all mine, they hadn't given me a contract as they had doubts about me, I was a trouble maker, I twisted things and was a trouble maker. By "twisting" things I can only guess he meant that when he said to do "A" and she said to do the complete opposite, that I made the mistake of saying "this is the opposite to what she / he says, , which do you want me to do?"
I know I should just brush it off, but I feel all tearful and crushed. Worrying about the reference they might give me, what if they don't give me a p45 etc etc. Its come as a shock, because I've never had this kind of reaction before. I've worked for over 30 years. I've left other jobs with glowing references, and I know that I did my level best. What's the best way to get over this ?? I don't want another sleepless night. I am a natural worrier, hate arguments and hate people disliking me. I'd love to be the kind of person who treats things like this as water off a ducks back, one thought I have is that this could be a good opportunity to start practising !! Any hints on how to do this gladly accepted :-)
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Really upset at how this job turned out - how can I move on ?
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Annhod · 12/10/2013 19:04
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