Bullying boss.

[pedrohedges]

I'm currently sat in my bedroom absolutely crapping myself at the thought of going into work on monday. My boss is bullying me and i don't know what to do.

Dp is setting up his business so money is tight at the moment. We, as a family rely on my wages so i can't just leave. I'm trying very hard to get another job.
Here is a list of recent things:

I booked time off in the holiday book as we were considering getting married. My boss tipexed it out and allowed the temp to have the time as it was his birthday and he kicked right off. Infact he left the building and my boss said it was a good idea he did because he wanted to smack me one! Over a birthday!! I'm not allowed the time even though i booked in first.

We all have set tasks that need doing. Out of the 6 of us that work there only 2 of us actually can be bothered to do all of our jobs. I am one of those 2. Now the temps tasks have been given to me, i barely have enough time to complete my own. If they're not done theirs an atmosphere and i'm made to feel like i'm lazy.

I'm shouted at and spoken down to in front of customers. It's like my boss wants people to know that they're in charge.

I mentioned about my wtc only to get digs about how they don't leach off the taxpayer.

I was off on holiday for 2 weeks and got dressed down on my first day back because others jobs weren't done!

One member of staff is very lazy, they don't really get any set jobs. So it makes it hard on everyone else.

I can't really take it anymore, yet i can't leave. I have posted on here before under another name but now it's really taking its toll.
I'm crying all the time, having nightmares etc...

[pedrohedges]

Temp is also aggressive to me at times, he shouts and tells customers i'm useless. Customers are gradually stopping using our service as both temp and boss are so rude.

[pedrohedges]

Boss made a mistake and blamed it on me because she didn't want to look stupid in front of a customer. She pointed at her head and told me to use mine and stop being so stupid.

Just noticed i have been tipexed out of another day off i had put down.

[scurryfunge]

Do you have an HR department? Is there a dignity at work policy?
Are you in a union? Start documenting every incident and make sure you have a witness to every conversation. You must complain.

[pedrohedges]

No HR, we're a small business and the boss owns it.
Have no idea what dignity at work policy is i'm afraid.

I have complained, to my supervisor who is equally bullied although not a bad as me and i spoke to my boss the other day because i literally broke down sobbing.

[scurryfunge]

It sounds like a very difficult situation for you and I'm sorry I'm not being very helpful. Maybe Citizens Advice could advise.

[gertrudestein]

The best thing you can do is write everything down over a period of time like a month, then look at it and take all the emotion and Ambiguity out. It sounds like you wil have more than enough cut and dry examples, so don't risk using any where the boss could argue the toss.

Then go to your supervisor and your boss and show them both the list. But instead if presenting it as a list of complaints, say "I've obviously misunderstood some of the processes here. Please can you explain to me what I've done wrong?" This way you open up a conversation for things to change (eg that holiday book doesn't sound very effective!), and don't come across as too confrontational

The effect of this should hopefully be 1. You feel more on control 2. You find a way to talk to your boss (with witnesses) without getting too upset

Obv keep looking for a new job as well!

[gertrudestein]

Ps I really feel for you - it's awful to be going through this and Boone should have to put up with it

[queenofthepirates]

I've been in your shoes. First off I suggest a visit to the GP to see if you can get signed off for a bit. Work related stress is real and you'll find yourself with very real symptoms if you don't take it easy.

Secondly, put everything in writing to clear your mind.

Thirdly, start looking for another job pronto, indeed use time off on sick to find another job. Yes, you will find another and yes you should quit.

I endure this for three miserable, wasted years. I regret it bitterly but I did walk away with a settlement to leave and into a fabulous new job.

You can do it, it's not just me.

[pedrohedges]

I'm worried that getting signed off will make things worse plus i need my wages.
My boss is one of those who's against sick pay etc... she detests maternity with a passion.

[gertrudestein]

Do you have an emploent contract? She has to pay you sick leave - its the law. Even if you don't have a contraft she ought to pay you because you are technically employed if u r under certain conditions.

If I were you, I would call up acas and get some really good advice z

Also, do start writing everything down

[pedrohedges]

Yes i have a contract. I have already lowered my hours so the temp can have more. I kind of felt like i had no choice. I have no backbone and i was put on the spot.

The other members of staff have noticed how am i being treated and are willing to stick up for me.

[pedrohedges]

My boss was strangely nice to me today, i suspect she a mumsnetter! lol

[Iggly]

What kind of MNer would treat their employee like that?! If she is reading it, how disgusting of her!!!!

Keep job hunting x

[pedrohedges]

I am Iggly, thanks

[RenterNomad]

Get out as soon as you can. The boss is already losing business through this appalling behaviour (and allowing it in the temp), and deserves to go under.

[kiwimumof2boys]

Yeah i agree with the above post - get out, you deserve better.
If you are reading this pedrohedges boss - shame on you !

[RenterNomad]

How are you getting on?