What would you do? Boss not just awful but getting away with murder (not literally!)

[unpaidcleaner]

what would you do? my boss is generally a cow, most people dislike her, she's very arrogant & hard to get on with.Thats not the thing, though - i mean you don't expect to like everyone you work with, you just get on with it. 2 things about her really get to me. 1. She is unbelievably rude to people, especially on the telephone - coworkers and customers alike. If we had a temp or junior member of staff who talked to people the way she does, she'd sack them just like that! But her boss works in another building and has no idea what goes on. 2nd thing is that her husband works for the same company, on fulltime salary, but he takes their kids to school, picks them up after school, entertains them in school holidays all day, etc. i know all this because i've seen him, they live in an area i'm often in with my kids. It seems so unfair, when you think that part time workers who work part time to do all the kids stuff get a part time salary (quite rightly) & there he is sciving it!! What would you do if anything?????????

[Carmenere]

I can't see why your bosses personal arrangements are any of your concern?

[Twiglett]

how do you know about her husband's contract and salary details? I'm sure its all above board

depends how you get on with her in terms of her rudeness. .. you could try to joke with her 'that was a little off wasn't it?' big beaming smile .. but if its directed at you I'd say 'please don't talk to me like that I don't appreciate it'

[unpaidcleaner]

its not 'my concern', its the injustice of it, that she can be so rude to people yet nobody stops her, whereas she is the first to tell people what to do & how to behave. Second, we all work for the same company, and i know he is contracted for 40 hours a week, but does not work 40 hours. 3 part time staff work part time hours and get part time pay. he works part time hours and gets full time pay. its unfair.

[Tortington]

when shouted at - and..i have actually really in real life done this.

i say " please don't shout at me. i shout back"


also bosses say things like - "i wouldnt shout at you for doing that"

" good" says i " cos i shout back"

i'm not 5 years old for fucks sake. treat me as an adult of i will seek legal representation and sue your fucking arse

[Carmenere]

Well you could make an official complaint but how would this benefit you and your work environment?

[fairyjay]

Maybe your boss's contribution is considered so highly, that the flexible working arrangement for her dh is considered one of her perks?

[Twiglett]

I'd look for a new job before I got pushed tbh

you sound really disgruntled and unhappy and I bet they see it too

[Carmenere]

Wise words from Twiglet.

[Piffle]

without seeing payslips it's hard one to call tbh...
I agree with the marmite stick, you're unhappy, look for something else pronto xx

[Katiedale73]

I'd just to like say that I've been in a very similar situation, where my (female) boss was a nightmare to work for. She was rude to everyone, came and went as she pleased, didn't know her job or anyone elses, couldn't use a computer to save her life (in an IT Centre!!!), took credit for everyone elses work, and, ultimately, led to the closure of our centre, resulting in my, and my co-worker's, redundancy last summer (while I was on maternity leave no less).

We worked in an outreach centre, so her seniors had no idea what she was doing (or wasn't, as the case may be), so they found her a job elsewhere in the organisation, while the rest of us were left jobless. With two children under school age I've been unable to find work that fitted around my (then) childcare arrangements and offered an equal salary. So, we now live (by which I mean exist) on one wage and barely scrape through each week, while this vile woman is now terrorising other people (I've been told this by ex-colleagues who now work with her).

I can completely understand why unpaidcleaner is so angry and upset by her manager's 'arrangements', and that of her husband. Those of us who work hard and play by the rules tend to get kicked where it hurts, while other's have a great time and get paid more money in my experience.

[SueW]

Maybe her husband works his hours in the evening when the kids are asleep or she is at home to look after them?