Please help, I need some advice about a work colleague who I feel is using sly tactics to discredit my work. It started 18 months ago when due to organisational changes, I and my colleagues had to re-apply for our jobs.
A few weeks after re-applying, I was informed by my then line manager that they were offering me redeployment.
She explained they took my previous/ present skills into account, and felt I'd be more suited to an alternative job role they were offering in a different dept. I had seen this particular job role advertised in the bulletin but I didn't apply for it because I didn't think I'd get it, so I was surprised when they offered it to me. A change is as good as the rest, I reasoned, so I accepted quite happily.
I had no idea that some of my colleagues had applied for that particular role, only to be turned down. Once people realised I was offered the job without actually applying for it, they felt that I had effectively stolen it from someone else.
One of the women who applied for the job, went to complain to the manager and was also offered a job in the dept I was starting in. Her friend had also applied but was turned down. So I ended up in this new dept with this woman who made it known to everybody else from day 1 that I had stolen her friends job and that I shouldn't be working there. As time went on, I thought she'd 'move on' from it, but she has continuously found little ways to make my life a misery, little things that only I can see, but nobody can't, finding fault with my work and just sitting there talking while I'm running round like an idiot trying to get everything done.
Her husband passed away 12 months ago. I felt sorry for her at the time and tried to make her working life easier for her but since then, she uses her 'sad eyes' and widowhood' status when I try to explain I need help myself.
I tried to tell my supervisor but it all came out wrong and I ended up sounding like I was being mean, and she hsn't spoken to me hardly since, like I'm a troublecauser. I'm ran into the ground totally stressed and I look it too, which my colleague takes great delight in telling me.
What can I do? I can't carry on 
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Bullied by work colleague, sly tactics, stress levels high :(
crushedintherush · 05/01/2013 20:39
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Are you sure that colleagues see her as a hero?
If someone I worked with was constantly saying things like 'well it's a good job I'm here isn't it?' I think I would smile on the outside but inside would be thinking 'whatever'
Do you think that maybe you are being overly sensitive?
Could you turn things around a bit? Perhaps when she makes the comment above you could respond with 'what would we do without you, always in the right place at the right time' maybe say it in a very friendly way that is 80% genuine 20% sarcasm. It might just be enough to make her wonder and think things through a bit.
It's a bit passive aggressive but probably the best situation given her sad circumstances
Oh and take in cakes for the whole department, they will love you 
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