I'm the only carer for my severely disabled mother, she refuses to have any other care. I work, have four children and basically run her life too. My mum has had an awful life that has scarred her and left her difficult, immature, selfish and demanding.
I, myself had a difficult childhood which included lots of beatings and emotional abuse but as I've become an adult and she is less physically able she has mellowed.
I do my best to meet all her needs but I find her demands a becoming too much and there seem to be more and more unacceptable incidents that I'm struggling to forgive/explain/ignore.
Today, she asked if two of my children would go for a walk with her. They wanted to go and I agreed.
At the moment she has a condition which means she can only eat liquids, as solids make her choke and vomit. I rang her three times because I know how difficult she is, to please not eat while with the children as if she choked it would frighten them and obviously it is unfair for them to deal with it. She promised me she wouldn't eat and and even got cross with me for daring to suggest she even would,after I'd asked a few times.
So , I get a phone call from my panicked children to say she was eating while they were out. I spoke on the phone and said you promised you wouldn't. She put the phone down and then my children called to say she'd called them bitches and told them to fuck off because they'd told me. I'm so upset for them. I collected them all immediately and took her home without saying a word to her. I feel so trapped and frustrated with this situation that I can't escape. I'm all she has and I do everything for her, she couldn't cope on her own.
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Undecidedmare · 01/08/2014 17:37
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