Recently, I've been helping my grandparents a lot, who are both 85. My nan is the less sick of the two: although physically unwell, she is definitely "all there" unlike my granddad who is regularly forgetting what country we live in and who people are, he also has hallucinations etc. So he has carers who come to look after him every morning and there have been complaints that he is "touchy feely" with them; today a male carer came because of these complaints, but my granddad refused, very rudely I must add, to let the guy do his care. As a teenager, I actually lived with my grandparents due to my mother's abuse and my father's alcoholism, and I sort of remember my granddad being very slightly uncomfortable, as in he would sometimes brush past me in a weird way, but I always assumed it was an accident, now I dont know. It makes me feel very awkward about him, and sorry for my nan a bit. He isn't a bad man at all, I remember him before he started "losing it" and he was and is a good person and I love him, but now I feel confused and guilty... my 7 year old foster son and daughter are close to him and I never felt any weirdness about it until now, now I'm wary of it and worried they might be affected. I don't know who to tell about this, my dad would probably say that he's just old and doesn't mean it, my other extended family would be a bad idea too and my nan is out of the question (she's very old fashioned and strict and I have never been able to talk to her about personal issues).
Opinions on the situation? :/ What would you do?
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Grandfather inappropriately touches his carers?
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daphnemariamcc · 15/06/2014 11:26
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