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DM in hospital. DF now ill.

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drzeus · 09/06/2014 01:18

DM had a stroke on 25/5. Been in hospital since. Moved to a rehab ward just over a week ago and is making slow progress. Limited movement on the left hand side (arm and leg affected). Just got in from DF house. Had the OOH doc out to him as he was feverish and had difficulty standing. He's been diagnosed with a chest infection. D sis and BIL are there tonight. I've come home to sort kids out for school before going back in the morning. Had he been alone, the doc wanted to admit him to hospital, but had given him anti biotics and said to keep a watch over
him for 48 hours, anticipating that he'll be better off at home. Feel so worried and helpless for both of them. Feel so torn between helping parents and looking after my boys. Feel crap.

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Isabeller · 09/06/2014 01:28

How very worrying and difficult for you. Good that Dsis and BIL are involved.

I hope you manage to sleep reasonably well, I'm not good at it (also in a family sandwich) but if you can look after yourself you will be able to make better decisions and cope with the situation better than if overtired and not eating well. xx

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goshdarnit · 09/06/2014 01:29

drzeus, you must feel so stressed, stretched and torn at the moment. take it a day at a time,
go to bed, try and sleep, look after your boys in the morning, and let your sister take care of dad tomorrow morning.
Call her when the boys are at school and plan your day, hour by hour if necesary.
Most importantly, look after yourself, as you have a lot of weight on you at the moment, go and lie down and try and rest (maybe put on radio4 or 4 extra on low to take your mind off things)

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drzeus · 09/06/2014 06:27

Thanks for your messages last night. Managed about 3 hours restless sleep. Feel so tired this morning and headache already. Just relieved that I could get over to DF last night and call the OOH doctor. My DH flew back from a week in the US on Saturday so I had loads going on last week with parents and no one to help with the kids. Confused thankfully they (at 12 and 10) realise that I've got a lot to deal with. Managed to drive into the back of someone on Wednesday evening too so it's not been a good couple of weeks.

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MissMarplesBloomers · 09/06/2014 07:00

Take care of yourself OP, you are juggling lots of things at the mo & most of them emotionally charged. Make time for you too, eat & sleep or at least ring fence the odd 5 mins for a cuppa + sit down, while you plan your next day or so.

Can any of your kids friends parent help out, maybe with school runs, have them for tea/ sleepover ? I know folks often would like to help but wait to be asked.

Also might be worth mentioning to the class teachers in case you have to change collection plans one day or the DCs are upset.

Take care + hope they all improve soon xx

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