It's really hard isn't it?

[CaptWingoBings]

Just a moan really. My PIL are aged 90 & 72, my MiL is a full time carer for my FiL. DH & I have two under 5, I work full time & DH works weekends so we can get by financially. PIL live 3 hours drive away & increasingly they need us. It is so hard to balance isn't it?

[FetchezLaVache]

That sounds like a fairly impossible situation to balance, not just hard... Is your DH an only child? What's your MIL's health like?

[CaptWingoBings]

Not an only child, older sister, who lives overseas, & older half sibs whose relationship is not good enough with PIL to offer much support.

MiL health is okay, she can manage looking after FiL etc but can't manage extraordinary events - they are (sensibly) finally moving from their rural house (9miles to nearest shop sort of rural) but will need a lot of help over the next few months to clear out current house & house hunt in new place. I think the move might kill FiL to be honest.

Worried about how we will manage financially if DH can't work weekends any more!

[FetchezLaVache]

Any chance they would consider moving close to you, to make it easier for you to help them out?

[rhetorician]

Feel for you. 80yo mother in hospital, not mobile and slightly confused. I am only child, have 2yo and 5yo and don't live in uk. Oh, and have demanding full time job. It's really hard

[twentyten]

Hi capt. Could you contact age uk or the local county council? They may be able to arrange help for the move (paid for) but would save your income. It is really hard. Good luck.