Hi All,

Brief history, DS1 who is 7yo was born 10 weeks early. Spent his first year or so in and out of hospital on oxygen.

He started in one school from reception (no nursery) His teacher then raised concerns about his abilities, he is clumsy, always falling over, can never sit still for more than a few seconds was behind the rest of his class with reading and writing. In year 1 we had the SEN in, had the report back with no conclusion...

Meanwhile he moved to a bigger and better school, or so I thought. Year 2 he had a different teacher every few months because of maternity leave, pregnancy, or ill teachers and I am very aware that life happens!

Towards the end of year 2 I had a meeting with his headteacher because I was worried about him struggling, she said they would look into getting SEN in for the new term in september and she would meet with his teachers to discuss the concerns so he will get the extra help they can give with so many kids in the class. DS even asked whether he could move to the table that has a teaching assistant on for another girl because she helps the whole table. I asked and this was refused due to it being a different group...

Fast forward to the new term, Year 3, Juniors, I sat down and spoke to him before he started in september and said the teacher might expect a bit more from him now he's a junior. He is a little wary of his teacher who is very strict, which I thought was what he needed!

We are however having trouble in every aspect, leaving his reading books in his drawer, losing his lunch box, drinks bottle, not writing homework down, losing letters, his teacher has in the past few weeks mentioned to the Child minder that he is not doing his work in class whilst the rest of the other children are, he is always losing his pencils and pens ect...

Now since I have lost my job I am trying to get on top of it and today I approached his teacher at home time to ask if he had any homework this week, this is after he had a letter this morning asking for a copy of his spellings as DS said he couldnt write them down.

He sort of shrugged it off and said well maybe his homework book wasn't in his bag, but I am 100% certain it was! He still didnt offer or give me the spellings, said something about a meeting tomorrow, of which I had no knowledge of because of the above where i mentioned letters arent coming home! Same with parents evening, and what made it worse was he seemed annoyed at me for asking.

I spoke to DS tonight who admitted he struggles to remember. We know he finds it hard to concentrate because it quite often takes 3 - 4 hours to do his homework

I plan on making an appt with the head teacher to dicuss my concerns but I came away today in tears because his teacher didn't seem to give a crap and whilst I understand there are 24 other children in his class I don't think it would take long for him to remind them a few times to write it down, or even give them to me, now he had a spelling test tomorrow which he will get all wrong because we have no idea what the bloody words are!

He shrugged me off and said see me at the end of the day tomorrow and I'll see where I can fit you in for parents evening.

Any advice firstly on how I can help DS, I am reminding him every morning to write his spellings and homework down, i check his bag as we leave the school playground every day and send him back if he forgets anything.

It's breaking my heart that he is struggling so much