do you attend your child's school swimming lessons? If so, why?

(61 Posts)
umbrunion Thu 13-Jun-13 09:46:29

Just a thought. It has never occurred to me to attend and yet some parents do. This is assuming your child is nt and that the school hasn't asked you to go.

School are trying to discourage parents from attending btw.

Sparklingbrook Sat 15-Jun-13 16:42:18

There was no rota lainey. I would have quite gladly helped but the school kept parents at arm's length on the whole. sad

laineylou Sat 15-Jun-13 16:34:27

I was a parent helper...school always desperate for parents as they needed bods for the coach and getting swimming hats on. We weren't expected to actually help take the class. I did get very miffed when there was a gaggle of mums happy to pitch up to watch their kids but would never offer to be on the swimming coach rota.

Ds isn't old enough for school swimming lessons yet, but I have to say this is the most bizarre thing I've ever heard!

Llareggub Sat 15-Jun-13 09:31:40

It would never cross my mind to go and watch. My DS had lessons in reception and none of us went, apart from a few SAHM who were good enough to help with changing. If I had concerns about the school keeping them safe then I'd change schools.

But then I am as far from a Klingon parent as you can get.

Sparklingbrook Sat 15-Jun-13 09:01:32

Yes, I only went because it was a public cafe at the local Leisure Centre, I wouldn't have gatecrashed if it were at another school/private pool. That would have been weird.

ShadeofViolet Sat 15-Jun-13 09:01:22

I go as a volunteer with our school - help on the bus, help them get changed etc.

My DS2 wont have swimming lessons for another 2 years, but I have been helping since DS1 had his nearly 5 years ago.

littleducks Sat 15-Jun-13 08:59:35

I think I would find it a bit weird if uninvited there were mums hanging around every week. Especially if my kids started pestering me to come too, I find it hard enough to attend all the school events we are actually supposed to.

But our school doesn't going swimming till they are in the juniors, so hanging around parents would probably be declared 'embarassing' anyway and they currently walk to a local private school and use their pool so I doubt anyone would be allpowed in anyway.

RoooneyMara Sat 15-Jun-13 08:56:12

LOL grin

I could see mine as he was about 10 feet behind everyone else sad

He doesn't care, he's quite happy. And I love him even if he can't swim.

Sparklingbrook Sat 15-Jun-13 08:44:02

The thing is once all the boys were in the pool with wet hair I couldn't work out which one was DS1 anyway. blush

RoooneyMara Sat 15-Jun-13 08:43:34

Actually I kind of wanted to check it was being done reasonably as I'd witnessed some rather unhappy swimming lessons before, at the same pool.

I didn't want to find my child in a group of worried or unhappy children being shouted at.

Maybe a lot of parents feel worried on similar grounds - maybe their experiences of learning to swim were such that they don't easily trust it to a stranger.

RoooneyMara Sat 15-Jun-13 08:41:59

Rose I am sorry for what happened to you and to the little girl in the pool. I can understand why it would bother you very much.

I just want to say that no one, NONE of the parents I know would turn up to laugh and point (except me at my own child, possibly)

There is definitewly no helping with getting changed and we sat, the one time I went, in a steep row of seats well above the pool. I waved at ds once or twice but mainly was just chatting.

Startail Fri 14-Jun-13 22:09:17

I've done standing in the rain at the outside pool, purely because I couldn't think of an excuse quickly enough.

Last year they wanted volunteers in Wimbledon week, it was definitely someone else's turn.

Certainly didn't go to watch DDs, they are both fish, who could swim before starting school.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 14-Jun-13 22:06:55

Why the fuck is anyone "concerned" about this?? My DDs school needs four helpers to take the kids back to school as they walk. I live 2 minutes walk from the school - i stay to walk them back. The pool i separate although we can see through glass partition. No one really watches the kids, too busy gassing. The ratio has to be 6:1 otherwise they are not allowed to walk them. Parents drop off at the pool, it takes ooooh, all of an hour out of my day. No cafe though, just a minging coffee machine

exoticfruits Fri 14-Jun-13 22:05:52

I have found the same TheBuskersDog, except that we have taken parents to fulfil the adult/child ratio. However they do not help with changing- there is no help with changing -and the children are taught by staff at the pool. The pool isn't open to the public in a schools session therefore there are no spectators.

TheBuskersDog Fri 14-Jun-13 21:55:50

I'm rather concerned at the amount of people saying they were helping with changing or actually in the pool, or are concerned at the adult child ratios.
When we take a class of thirty children we have four members of staff, three who instruct and then usually the class teacher who stays away from the pool. We also have a higher level external instructor. The children are then taught in four groups according to level of ability. Nobody is even allowed poolside (including the class teacher) if they have not been trained.

The children do not need help with changing apart from an occasional child who has SEN, and then we have an extra member of staff to meet their one-to-one needs.

Chubfuddler Fri 14-Jun-13 21:54:15

Blimey. I don't give a monkeys if other parents are hanging about but really, it seems a bit Klingon to me.

NB ds's school has a pool and has never requested parent helpers. Doesn't stop some of them weirdos.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 14-Jun-13 21:45:30

RosemaryandThyme, gurl - you got issues hmm

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 21:39:26

I think we started going out of curiosity more than anything. He was my PFB which probably didn't help. We just wanted to know what sort of form the swimming would take. School communication wasn't great and DS1 never told me anything.

As the weeks went on it was more about the chatting and eating than anything the pupils were doing in the pool.

Ds1 would throw me his wet gear on the way out to the coach. grin

lljkk Fri 14-Jun-13 21:29:36

If MN threads are any guide, a lot of people attend because they don't trust the school to conduct the lessons safely.

bluegiraffe Fri 14-Jun-13 21:28:50

piprabbit, I AM a full-time working mum! The lesson is at 9am, so same as dropping them at school anyway, Then a lot of "us" (working parents) arrange for another non-working parent to do the return to school part. Luckily, I can WFH that day too, saving time travelling.

RosemaryandThyme Fri 14-Jun-13 21:26:13

Well perhaps you are nice - but I really felt for one of my Dd's friends when two pool-side mums' actually sniggered at her from the safety of the viewing balcony, she is the class chubby girl and as a previous class chubby myself, my heart went out to her.

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 20:57:37

Without the 'helper brigade' some schools couldn't go swimming.

RoooneyMara Fri 14-Jun-13 20:55:56

Eh? Rose I think you need a brew

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 20:52:11

I wasn't Rosemary but thanks for saying I am not in my right mind grin. DS1 could swim at that point and the pool was half a mile away so it was no big deal. As I said upthread we were so busy chatting we didn't see anything in the end.

Nothing noxious about the cafe either. Nice tea and wholemeal toast IIRC.

RosemaryandThyme Fri 14-Jun-13 20:34:49

Those that hang around are just nosey.

They are totally there to compare their kid to others, and trying to claim your not and just coffeeing with mums is tripe - no one in their right mind would voluntarily go to a noxious swimming pool cafe for real mum chat time.

Same as the "art" displays in every class - parents just are soooo not looking at their own kids work, its' voyueristic snooping.

As for LEM and the "I'm a helper" brigade - just accept you've too much time on your hands and unglue yourself from your poor smothered children.

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