Nursery want to refer DS to an educational psychologist?

(31 Posts)
DingbatsFur Thu 14-Mar-13 22:16:06

Hi folks,
DS2 is 4. He has been at nursery (school not creche) since September. At first he was delighted, lots of little friends and he settled well. Since January though he seems less happy. When the teacher criticises him he will put his head down and be quiet for a few minutes. He also finds it necessary to go off and seek 'quiet time' away from the other kids with books.
He's a bright kid, his skills except for reading are on a par or better than his brother who is 2 years older but he seems a bit behind emotionally. Heck though, he's 4. He was never in with large groups of kids until he started nursery (before that he was at home or with a childminder). I understand perfectly why he would need quiet time. The nursery teacher however has suggested he be observed by an educational psychologist. I agreed (largely because I am tired of the teacher telling me she basically thinks my kid is weird) she won't tell me what she believes is the issue or what they are looking for.
I'm a bit baffled really and feel he's been picked on because he is a bit different.
Anyone else been through something similar? Is looking for peace in a class of 26 3-4 year olds really that weird?

DingbatsFur Fri 31-May-13 13:35:43

Hi Folks,
Well the upshot of it all is that DS2 is very bright and a bit shy.
The techniques being used by the teacher were aggravating the situation. The Ed Psych has given several suggestions to the teacher and has advised her to stop some of the things she is doing that she employed to help DS2 but were actually hindering him and making him feel singled out and punished. We have also been given some advice on how to work with DS2 (give him reasonable notice of change, ensure kisses and hugs are done before we go into school so that when he walks through the doors he can't drag it out).
It is felt generally that he will do better in 'proper' school next year where everything is more structured. She did make enquiries as to whether we felt he had ASD tendencies or if those characteristics ran in the family but I haven't noticed anything of this kind with him.
We are waiting for the full report.
DS2 is now much happier at school and no longer fights in the morning. Whatever they said to the teacher must have worked!

Mutteroo Fri 31-May-13 17:10:54

Dingbatsfur I'm so pleased this is now being sorted out! What a relief for you & speaking as the mother of a very clever but shy son, he'll find his way through the education system.

DingbatsFur Fri 31-May-13 19:23:54

By the way I should make it clear the Ed Psych came through the school board and not privately. Turnaround was probably 6 weeks including the Easter break.

Thanks Mutteroo for your comments! Hope your son is doing well!

cory Sun 02-Jun-13 10:47:10

Sounds like seeing the Ed Psych was a useful thing to do then.

smile

notcitrus Sun 02-Jun-13 11:59:54

Glad he's now much happier!

wheresthebeach Sun 02-Jun-13 20:11:24

Great news! Now the school will focus on what needs to be done to help him.

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