I have a really adorable, gentle, good natured DS who is very bright, totally loves reading all books, and is a font of knowledge on all thing science or nature related. He has always been in the top three in his year group.
However he struggles hugely with expressing himself in terms of giving opinions on things in conversation, and finds much harder again expressing opinions in any writing homework. Each teacher he has had, has always said how frustrated they are that he wont "open up" or contribute, as they know he so able and competent.
He is now in yr 6 at school and as the written homework gets more open ended he has got into a complete brain freeze when it comes to ANY question not purely factual. He just can sit there for 30 mins and not write a word. His face is in contortions and he just gets all whiny that he doesnt know what to, cant think what to write etc. I have always helped him along up to now with suggestions and eventually drag the answers out of him. When he does actually get it to paper it is usually excellent in content.
But this is now taking so long to get homework done, and is such a negative cycle to be in, that we decided to go hardline tonight and just tell him to get on with it himself (as he had already drawn out a mind map the night before of what his answer was to be about. All he had to do was fill it out a tiny bit). It all descended into us getting cross, him getting upset, us insisting he had to just write something, him getting more upset, and so on. At the end of about an hour he eventually wrote a few lines down on page, in tears, and he missed having any time for playtime. We also told him the Wii was going to be put away for a few days and would have to be earned back by him doing some similar writing work every day for 5 days to prove to himself that he can do this.
What a night. Feel an emotional wreck. Have never made my child so upset before and feel terrible. Dont know if have now made things 10 times worse, or whether taking the hard line was what we had to do.
Thank you if you have read all of this. Any advice or similar experiences would be hugely appreciated
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