That private school on TV an eye opener

(51 Posts)
GabbyLoggon Thu 23-Sep-10 11:32:34

something like Sunningdale.

after watching that I bet all teachers would wish they could teach well behaved children of the rich

A school with no punishment regime.hmmmm

emptyshell Fri 24-Sep-10 15:41:26

I worked in a boarding school for a couple of years (it's what pushed me to do my PGCE in the end) and they're really really horrifically misunderstood by the general public at large. We had small boarding houses, all headed by a houseparent duo with other staff and they were really really friendly places - they'd have a barbecue on a Sat evening, a trip out to the cinema or the beach on a weekend afternoon, film and popcorn nights - lots of stuff went on, even the houseparents' kids were pretty much viewed as part of the boarding house group in a similar manner to younger siblings.

Totally different to the stereotypical view of it and one of the most special places I've ever worked. And yes, we had our resident monkeys - but even the ones who made you tear your hair out on occasion were really nice kids under it all. We also had kids who were placed there as boarders via social services to give them a break away from horrific home circumstances, children of parents in the military who wanted consistency of schooling rather than lots of changes, children of TV celebs... lots of different reasons they boarded - some were weekly and went home at weekends, some were full-time boarders, some flexi-boarded a few days of the week.

And yes, your social life during term time is pretty much none existent if you're working as boarding house staff! Great fun though - I miss lots of the kids I worked with to this day (and we're nearly a decade down the line)... I also miss the school swimming pool being pretty much at the bottom of my garden but that's another story!

Hixies Sat 02-Oct-10 21:58:34

My son has been at boarding school for a year now - he went aged eleven - to a specialist dyslexic unit within a prep school - he had a wobbly start but now loves it - he has grown into such a happy and confident child - not all parents are rich - we have had to make huge sacrifices but it is worth it knowing i now have a happy child - not sure whether we can afford for him to continue to board - but at the moment it is the best thing we could have done

thenubianqueen Thu 28-Oct-10 23:10:43

I live in Harlow and Brixton. Trust me, the only difference is the roundabouts.grin

piscesmoon Fri 29-Oct-10 07:59:50

It makes me smile to think that the DCs of the rich are well behaved! You get the same mix as everywhere.

ECLEO Mon 26-Nov-12 18:53:14

Hi Hixies
just seen your reference to a dyslexic unit within a prep school. We are looking for a prep school for our DS (10 years' old) who has moderate dyslexia and I am desperate for any recommendations. We want somewhere as mainstream as possible but with good support for his learning needs. Would you recommend your DS's school?
Many thanks

Lilymaid Mon 26-Nov-12 18:56:19

zombie thread

Gunznroses Mon 26-Nov-12 19:14:23

Ecleo - i don't know where you are but here is a very good prep school for children with dyslexia
Egerton Rothesay school

grovel Mon 26-Nov-12 19:15:07

ECLEO, where do you live?

minifingers Mon 26-Nov-12 20:04:49

Will try to watch the programme.

I would never send my own children to boarding school. (not that I could afford it). I went, as did my two siblings, and basically, despite the fact that there were nice people working there we weren't actually PARENTED in the real sense of the word. I think it was very damaging emotionally. Not that I would have recognised this at the time. Children tend to get on and make the best of things. sad

DesertHippy Tue 27-Nov-12 08:28:41

minifingers this is a zombie thread ie it's 2 years old so I think the programme is long gone now.

hardboiled Tue 27-Nov-12 16:33:04

Where was the original program shown?

grovel Tue 27-Nov-12 16:45:36

2010

hardboiled Wed 28-Nov-12 10:05:22

Found it in Youtube. Fun to watch. It helped me confirm my decision that I would never send DS to one of these schools - Sunnigdale, Eton, Harrow, etc - because I would be very disappointed if he came home and said he wanted to become prime minister, as I've always told him I hope he will make a good living at a job that involves neither lying nor damaging the lives of lots of people.

Hamishbear Wed 28-Nov-12 10:37:09

What's it called on You Tube? Thanks

hardboiled Wed 28-Nov-12 14:59:26

Britain's youngest boarders 2010

AllTheYoungDudes Wed 28-Nov-12 15:01:16

Zombie thread.

Veritate Wed 28-Nov-12 22:44:54

I went to boarding school and can still remember uncomfortably the utter desolation of homesickness - and that was at age 11. I'd absolutely hate to do that to an 8 year old, no matter how cosy the school is.

difficultpickle Wed 28-Nov-12 22:47:43

Ds is 8 and loves boarding. He does 3 nights and wants to do more. I've said 3 is plenty at his age. I guess it depends on the child. I didn't like going away for a week with the Brownies when I was 8.

hardboiled Thu 29-Nov-12 09:34:15

In the country I was born in, if a child goes boarding, it is either:
- a punishment. For example, when my parents discovered my sister was skipping school they threatened her with boarding school.
- a force majeure (children of the military, or people working abroad...).

No one would think of it as "the best for my child" even if in some cases it turns out to be. It's very very different.

difficultpickle Thu 29-Nov-12 11:12:07

Hardboiled the other option is to enable a child to do something they absolutely love that they couldn't do if they didn't board, which is our position. No punishment or force required at all. In fact if ds is naughty at home I have said I won't allow him to board. I've never seen him behave himself so quickly once I said that!

hardboiled Thu 29-Nov-12 11:32:54

Happy to hear you son loves it, bisjo.

lisad123 Thu 29-Nov-12 11:37:41

Which channel was this on? Would like to watch it

hardboiled Thu 29-Nov-12 11:38:28

See posts above. Youtube.

hardboiled Thu 29-Nov-12 11:53:37

This one is good too, from 1991, on Eton:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=r75ajf6UEhU (part 1)

It's a fascinating subject of course, even for the parents who would not contemplate boarding.

lisad123 Thu 29-Nov-12 13:26:40

Just sat and watched it. The boys seem happy enough once settled and the school seems very lovely and family like.
I wouldn't personally send mine to boarding school, but do understand why some do, especially if they move alot.

On a separate note I really wanted to go to boarding school as a kid blush

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