Right.
Well, I am unexpectedly shortly going to be a single parent of a beautiful, loving and exuberant 23 month old daughter. All rather a shock. My hurt and betrayal are off the charts, but I can't really even process that yet because the financial realities are far too stark.
I am writing this in the hope others might see some glint of hope in the financial circs that doesn't mean my daughter and I losing our house. But I think it looks grim. I have looked at benefit websites and I don't think we are eligible, and the mortgage agreement says clearly will be repossessed.
So here are the bleak facts:
- I work 24.5 hours a week, and take home £1820 a month total. My gross annual salary is about £35,000. To do this work I need to pay childcare - a nursery where she is very happy and given all the other changes I reay don't want to take her out of it. In addition soon-to-be-exH cared for her one day a week - I am hoping he still will.
-We bought a house a few months ago - and no way can I afford the mortgage payments alone, even with the alimony thing if it happened. It took both our incomes to be able to live here.
I am obviously devastated - we bought this house especially for her future, great schools and garden and have sunk all out money into it. The repairs etc are so expensive that we are even now in debt.
So I am distraught. I can't pay the mortgage on my salary. I don't want to sell. But I suspect I have no choice.
But:
- we dont have any money or savings left for all the upfront costs and
- We haven't owned it six months so I know any prospective buyer couldn't get finance and
- the mortgage exit fees are £6k at the moment since so new.
I don't know what to do. I definitely don't want to lose this home but can't see any way to get £3k extra a month which is what it would take.
I am going to ask the mortgage lender but they are clear in the agreement that failure to pay means repossession. It is a three year fix.
I am calling citizen advice Scotland on Monday in case they have any ideas but I am sure I earn too much for working tax credit type things. The only benefits I have are child benefit (universal in Scotland), and the lowest level of disability benefit. I have never had job seeker benefit or incapacity or whatever the other benefits are.
I haven't even had the chance to unpack all her toys yet. We were going to have her birthday party in a month. This is all just heartbreaking.
As for how I feel about him and what he is saying, I can't put that into words yet - I just have to keep a grip because I have to get secure home for my daughter.