Desperate and pushed into a corner

[AC786]

I have not been living with my husband for several months due to awful living conditions with my in laws. He'd been out if work but said that when in a job, we would move in together. We have a young child. Now he is saying that he won't live with me until he has time alone with our child. What do I do?

[YvyB]

You what? 'Time alone with your child'? As in you disappear for what? Hours? Days? And then he'll decide if you're useful enough to be allowed to join them?

Or (apologies if this is way off the mark but I'm wondering if you/he/both are from a different culture), once you've obediently got yourself out of the way, he disappears with your dc, possibly abroard?

Get thee to a solicitor for some free advice, and make sure you have an escape route planned for yourself and your dc if you need it.

[AC786]

I'm with my parents and we were meeting at the weekends but now he says he wants to see our child alone. We were meant to live together once he finds work but now he says he won't until he has our child alone and then he'll see. He also wants to take her to his family. I asked about me coming too and he said no.

To be honest, he has not been too interested in taking her before. And now I feel rather blackmailed and he is saying that if I don't, he will get the law involved. I have suggested that we look to finding a place together so that we can be together etc and he says no.

I lived with his mother and she was awful to me. He has not acknowledge. The two of them always ganged up on me.

Every time I try to talk to him he hangs up or runs away. I keep saying that whatever I have been through, it is best that our child lives with both her parents and is given that opportunity. The two of us have never actually lived together as we were with mother in law.

[AC786]

Plus he has her passport which he refuses to give to me. He says that I may leave the country...TBH I would not even have thought it. I have a full time job and reliant on the income. The fact that he said that makes me think that he may.

[YvyB]

Don't live with this man. He sounds horrible. Get some legal advice quickly so you know exactly where you stand.

[Fairylea]

Why would you want to live with someone like this??? Don't even consider it.

Get legal advice.