Hello, this is the first time I've ever written a request like this. I'm totally distraught as I've found out today that my husband has slept with another woman recently. I found a newly set up Skype and email account on his mac book today with a chain of emails to and from her.
She is working abroad for a few months and some of the contents were sexually explicit. It was clear they'd slept together a month or so ago and she kept reminding him to delete all the messages from his phone. I'm not sure who she is and if she is married too. Could be?!
When we started dating he had overlapped me with an ongoing affair with a married colleague. He denied everything until about 2 years ago. We decided to wipe the slate clean and start again. Since then we bought a house together and got married about 9 months' ago. I got pregnant immediately afterwards.
I have had work related depression on/off for the past 3 years and have eventually come off my medication. I'm just beginning to get my self-worth back and this has come as a shock to me. In every sense, I know it's over between us. To cheat on me whilst heavily pregnant; he has gone beyond-the-beyond. There's no turning back from that!
I'm really confused as to what to do next. Financially I'm in such a pickle... I won't receive any maternity pay from my employer as I've recently moved jobs so until I go back to work early next year I'm financially dependant upon him. Also our home is in his name only and we bought it as a doer-upper. It's still in a state and I've contributed a 10% deposit. It's still looks like a building site and it needs lots of work carried out. I'd love a clean break from him but need him financially over the next few months. My parents live miles away so I won't have the physical support to get me through the first few months after the baby is born.
Do I hang on to the house or request it be sold and the baby and I can start fresh closer to where I work?
I'm struggling - your thoughts would be really appreciated. Thanking you in advance xx
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8 months' pregnant and found husband cheating
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slminnie78 · 03/07/2014 23:03
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