Hi there, I am in desperate need of advice.
I live in EU and husband left me a year ago, after almost 20 years and 4 children 8 to 16 years. He had turned our lives upside down in months before, leaving, returning, beating me up. He has a criminal record for domestic violence in 2 countries. He has fled to UK.
I found life very difficult, 4 children alone. Sudden reduction in income, I earn 30 per cent and he 70 per cent. I gave up my career so he could have one. I spent last year in and out of hospital, operation, now psychiatric as having difficulty looking after kids with no family. Husband has thankfully shown little interest in kids, but I m left coping with his bills and 30 per cent income.
I succeeded in a court order for child and spousal spousal maintenance but he refuses to pay more than one third of order and he is contesting validity of EU country order, despite EU treaty Brussels 2 which makes it clear it is valid and EU country competent .
My husband took with him to UK 40k of marital assets too. He served divorce papers while I was hospitalised, he succeeded in divorcing me, I emailed court several times with no response, not easy when hospitalised.
He is now taking me to court and says he ll get me jailed if I don't turn up, because he wants permission to sell our home in UK which is rented. I am in EU country, he lives in hiding, having provided a false address to English court.
I am in a really bad way financially, despite being on PNC as dv victim and continuing, to receive abuse, I am unable to access legal help in UK, I have tried women's aid, rights of women, many pro bono organisations, none will help with any legal advice. I have tried every lawyer in area near court, over 30 of the them. The best offer I got was 10k upfront. No one will do legal advice with payment on settlement.
I have offered my husband following for settlement.
80k savings nearly all in kids name to remain theirs.
30 per cent of house valued at 220k.
Me and kids own house and buy him out.
He keeps car he already took.
He keeps the 40k he already took as part of the 30per cent house buy out.
Pensions 50 50.
Marriage 20 years. I worked part time and lost career.
I have exclusive care of children. Maintenance is in EU court in EU country.
He has offered me
50 per cent house
Wants 50 per cent savings, so taking kids savings
Refuses child and spousal despite court order to psy.
Please can someone advise me. I will be going to court alone. No legal rep.
Is my proposal one a judge would say yes to? 20 years bringing up kifd, dv, stealing marital assets, most importantly housing for 4 kids under 18. Husbands lawyer says no chance and said shell apply for my imprisonment. She has medical certs, proof of operation and subsequent hospitalisation a, she says no justification to get court date moved a few weeks for me to become stable and recover from operation and to find someone wholl loan me money for me to travel to UK. Court refuses medical certs, says no funds available to help me paybtravel costs.
Pleaswvcan someone offer advice. I am going mad.
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lifeisunjust · 02/07/2014 09:40
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