Mediation

[Happytosmile68]

I desperately need some advice. I made a financial offer to ex-husband to be in April. Expected him to come back with a counter offer but nothing! He keeps going on about meeting to discuss finances but my solicitor said he would arrange a meeting for the both of us & 2 solicitors as ex-husband to be is unreasonable & would simply use the opportunity to bully me. Husband has refused this meeting, won't make counter offer but wants to go to mediation which he'll use to get me on my own & browbeat me. What do I do? I want to sort the finances & be free of him but can you go to court without mediation?

[Lonecatwithkitten]

Most mediation services will ask to meet each of you individually before a joint meeting. You will the chance to tell them that he bullies you to get his own way. The likelihood is that they will then provide you with the form saying you are unsuitable for mediation. Job done you can go on to court.

[MissMarplesBloomers]

Advice generally is don' t go to mediation withan abusive partner, but it looks good if you have tried. Do as Lone cat suggests & get it in writing that it is not suitable due to the abusive nature of the relationship & then sit back & let the solicitors argue it out.

Have to say a face to face with both legal parties, although horrendously expensive is SO much quicker than endless months of letters & dragging it out.

[Happytosmile68]

Thank you. Have loads of emails, texts to show how unreasonable/bullying he is so will take these to the first mediation meeting.