I have been posting for a while in relationships mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2051961-If-I-can-accept-that-I-am-causing-him-to-drink about my marriage which has collapsed.
I would like to separate because I am miserable and because it is a bad atmosphere for our two children (2.5 and nearly 4). I can go to my parents in the short term but would leaving put me in a difficult position legally. Ie taking the children away from him or reduce my rights to our jointly owned home. I am desperate to stay in our house to minimise the upheaval for the children but I am fairly sure he won't go. I can't even have a conversation about separating without him blowing up and saying I'm emotionally blackmailing him.
I work at home 3 days a week with occasional trips away, have a nanny based at home and our eldest starts school in Sept getting on the bus from our village. Both kids have really good friends there too so they will be very upset to leave.
I have a solicitors appt booked but it has been moved to next week. In the initial meeting we discussed the collaborative law process for separation which sounds great but not so easy if I can't discuss it with DH at all.
In the long run I can buy him out I think. He owns a flat which is tenanted at the moment but he could move back into or e could rent elsewhere.
Is there anything I can do? Is there anything I should prepare for the meeting with the solicitor.
Thanks very much
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Middledaughter · 29/05/2014 16:37
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