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Worthless

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Whoaminow1 · 27/09/2013 00:00

How awful is this husband left 7weeks ago, caught him sending a text to one of my oldest girlfreinds sending her an £8o present. Said he doesn't love her, but instead of sorry he just walked after 23 yrs leaving 11 15 and17yr old. Ow appeared in our lives 2 years ago after leaving her husband. She was Freinds with both of us but significantly went out with husband when 16. I found her a job and rented house as she was penniless- invited for Christmas etc. then I noted she rang him when she was depressed to go to pub rang him to help her buy car, chatted to him about money and his Buisness. I nicely told her to back off and told him it was disrespectful. Added to this I thought my husband was stressed and supported him when he went away racing classic cars, caring for kids working etc. amazingly the guy he races is this girls brother.so I've just found out the guy who he races with has left his partner at the same time - she is devistated, leaving his kids as well.while mine and a total of 5 kids lives are shit at the moment these to men send happy pictures to the children on their phones of themselves standing next to their cars.needless to say I haven't seen my old girlfreind. All very awkward as we live in a small community and our kids are Freinds.why why are people so utterly selfish, and is it common for men to have midlife crisis holding hands with their Freinds.

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TheFarSide · 27/09/2013 00:18

It's very painful to be betrayed by both your husband and one of your friends. Just wanted to say you are NOT worthless and life WILL get better for you, so just hang on in there.

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Whoaminow1 · 27/09/2013 00:38

thanks The far side, everyday I just can't believe that I have been taken for such a ride. I actually feel emotional abused. I had organized a party for his 50th birthday. I fact we organized it together- marquee,disco etc for 150 people. When he walked out he suggested I cancel it( two weeks befor) it felt like a very public humiliation having to tell all our family and Freinds. The kids were very upset as they were really looking forward to it. The husband just shrugged his shoulders.it left me in a small village with everyone knowing about him leaving and lots of rumors about the other lady

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TheFarSide · 27/09/2013 09:58

Well, he has behaved very badly and if anyone should feel ashamed it is him.

You might find you get more responses if you get this thread moved to Relationships. I'm not quite sure how to do this - it might involve clicking on Report in any of the replies and asking them to move it.

There are a lot of people on here who have been in your situation and will be able to offer support.