H and I have decided to divorce, which is hard enough in it's own right. But I just don't know where to start. He owns the house, and has no intention of leaving or selling, so I need to find somewhere for myself and our two dd's. I have no savings and I'm paying off debt that we accrued when I was on mat leave and made redundant. I'm also an expat, so no family in this country. I work full time, and will have full custody of the girls, who are 3 and 5.
I'm assuming I need to find first/last month's rent + a deposit if I'm going to find somewhere to rent. But most of my income goes directly to the childminder, so I'm not sure how long it will take to save up that amount.
I'm just not sure how long I can cope under the same roof as H, even when we do our best to stay out of each other's way. (at the moment, we take turns sleeping away so that the girls always have someone home.) He's not physically violent, but the relationship has been emotionally abusive and his most recent outburst was directed at our 3yo DD. I think our relationship is only going to become more strained the longer this drags out.
Do I have to move out and make myself and the girls homeless, in order to access support? I just don't know what to do.
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fuzzypicklehead · 31/07/2013 05:09
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