'D'H moved out in April after dropping bombshell in Feb that he is no longer in love with me (Read: He has developed a 'connection' with someone at work, nothing happened but surprise, surprise, he is currently dating her). Have two DSs (5 and 3) and I am the primary caregiver. Things are amicable in the sense that I am going to do my best for the children by not turning this whole sorry state of affairs into one crazy blame-fest. I have taken legal advice and I know where I stand, so does he. We want to do the best for our children, only asset is the house which we are coming to an agreement on as to what to do with it.
HOWEVER he wants a clean break so he can shag his new flame without a guilty conscience and keeps pushing me about him filing for divorce on my unreasonable behaviour so he can pay all the court costs. Over my dead body I say. I don't want that on my head as this is so not my fault. He says it's all legality and paperwork and he doesn't give a monkey's on paper whose fault it is. I bloody do as it's a ten-year marriage so there is no way I want it lodge anywhere it is MY fault the marriage has ended. I would prefer to do it through the two-year separation no fault clause.
However, since the emergence of the confirmation that he is now dating this person, I have an idea. Can I turn it round to him and say how about I file for divorce but on grounds of his adultery so that I don't have to pay the court costs (as I think the person at fault pays?). If he doesn't contest it, can we be given a divorce just like that and he pays all the cost? I am guessing we will have to name the person he has committed adultery with for it to go through? Do we need 'proof' if he doesn't contest it? I am guessing that when I present this option to him, he won't be liking how this will reflect on him now... Thanks!
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