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what is 'the script' that men follow after separation?

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lizzie479 · 19/05/2013 21:55

Hi there, my ex and me have been split up six months (my decision but was pushed into it by him). I have heard a lot about 'the cript' on breaking up...what is this? My ex has threatened custody in mediation, denied bad behaviour, said I am denying him access which is very untrue! etc.... I am intrigued to know if he is following the script

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lizzie479 · 19/05/2013 21:56

Sorry that was meant to be my ex and I and 'the script' !

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RafaellaNhaKyria · 19/05/2013 22:00

That is exactly how my ex behaved. Has yours called you worthless, a liar, a twat or a cunt yet? That's the path my ex went down. All his controlling, emotionally abusive fuckwittery was banished from his memory and I was "making it all up to make him look bad".

I'm well-shot and so are you. This too shall pass and they are full of hot air and nothing to back it up.

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lizzie479 · 20/05/2013 13:02

He has called me a liar and a disgrace. He has also said I was violent why is a lie! But he can't spend any time alone with the kids without his family helping out! You are right about the hot air and nothing to back it up!

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lizzie479 · 20/05/2013 13:03

that was meant to say which is a lie....blimey I need a word processing course or something!

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honey86 · 03/06/2013 16:42

ill second this one! apparently im 'unstable'. says the one who called social services when i refused to talk to him Hmm.......to try n have my kids taken away so he can have a reason to cry wolf and ((poof!)) hell be handed custody Hmm

even a copper that came to see me after his abuse and harrassment, said 'wow this man has issues!'

but no. i must be the unstable one.Hmm

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skyeskyeskye · 06/06/2013 17:18

This is the mid life crisis script, is that the one you are thinking about?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1527705-Midlife-crisis-this-is-the-script

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STIDW · 09/06/2013 23:40

I'm not convinced that men follow a script any more than women. We know that some separating spouses have a distorted overly negative view of the other and during a conflicted divorce that view becomes more entrenched. Therefore there can be two versions of the same "truth." An analogy would be seeing a film or reading a book as someone else and interpreting it differently. That's why there is a cliche that everyone in family court cases lie.

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