H is going to let me know tonight if he is leaving. He had an affair and he finally disclosed about it in early Dec 2012. If he leaves I will be filing for divorce.<br><br>I believe that marriage is for life (apparently H is not so sure) and I still love H, so I have no idea how this all works, who to contact etc. So please help.<br><br>Also, he almost left last night. That would have meant me explaining it all to my two boys (age 5 and 3) in the morning. Given that he's going to tell me his decision tonight, once they're in bed, I may still have to tell them by myself. Please give me advice on what to say. I want to be honest about the affair H had as the reason but in a healthy way (don't want the boys to think it is them, or that I don't love H, or that people can just stop loving each other because then they'll worry that we'll stop loving them).