Separated last year at my instigation. Suddenly dh is trying to win parent of the year award by lavishing kids with gifts, getting involved with ds's school by volunteering loads etc. (having done sweet fa the whole of their lives)....
Anyway, it is hard to keep my head up especially as he is giving me no money (I work so it's not the end of the world) - in his words 'you wanted this, I'm not suffering financially because of it'...
He is a class twunt and dd sees straight through it. She said it does not matter how much he spends on me (and he is literally offering the world to them, new playstations, weekends away at expensive hotels, etc. etc.), he wasn't here for the last 13 years and you were mum and he can't buy my affections.
The problem is younger ds doesn't see through it. He thinks all this money being spent on him is great - he came back last weekend with new Beatz and loads of money in his pocket and he says all his friends at school think his dad is brilliant as he now takes them all to football etc. I have a feeling we are only one step away from ds asking to go and live with him :(
Last weekend we had a day out as a celebration for my birthday but ds was texting dh the whole way through the meal (dh instigated the texting and knew we were out for a meal) and dd lost her cool and said 'this is mummy's day, can't you just stop for a second and enjoy it with her' at which point ds just burst into tears and ran off. I called him back and said it was fine and he could talk to daddy when he wanted but I am pissed off that dh is doing this
of course I don't want ds to suffer and I am v pleased he is happy and his dad is spending time with him but what do I do - do I just grin and bear it? He is 11 now ds and I think he will ask to live with him soon :( and I am not sure I will be able to fight it (legally or emotionally)...
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my dd is making my ds feel bad about wanting to be with his dad
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rottenscoundrel · 22/04/2013 11:11
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