My divorce is going through amicably so thank goodness for that.
My current dilemma is whether or not to revert to my maiden name when everything is concluded. I have 3 year old twins and they are just at the stage of knowing and repeating their full names. I'm just not sure how I feel about having a different surname to them. I know many mothers have different surnames to their children but I just don't want them to feel like they're different to me.
So...
Reasons For Changing it:
My maiden name was much nicer than my married name.
It would demonstrate that I'm no longer tied to him.
I think future partners will wonder why I've kept my married name (old flame feelings? Defo not, btw).
Reasons for Keeping it:
I want my children to feel secure and know that they are part of me.
My STBXH may see it as me 'checking out' of the family - despite him ending the marriage.
I may regret it in future (when they go to school). Should I wait? But if I wait I may never end up doing it so strike while the irons hot?
I'd like to think it will annoy STBXH's future partners that I still carry his name (silly I know).
All friends have the same surname as their kids/parents. I'm sure that'll change when they go to school but at the moment, that's certainly the case.
Either way I'm going to become a Ms. I just can't decide on the rest!
Any help for others in my position would be gratefully accepted.
Thanks,
JG
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I know it's all down to personal choice but if/why/when did you revert to your maiden name?
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JuliaGulia · 12/04/2013 14:00
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