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3stars · 02/04/2013 06:36

Today I intend to phone up solicitor and ask her to send my husband a letter advising him I want a divorce:( I am sahm,3 children and I am on my own most of the time, when he is home he would rather sit at computer and ignore his children and leave me to sort them, so I figure I may as well go it alone. He knows nothing of my decision,if he has any idea he is doing nothing to make me change my mind.i have posted in relationships about my issues. Am I doing the right thing? I am so frightened of his initial reaction-I have no idea how he will react:( I know that it will be made difficult by his family for me and we will have to live in our home together as he has made it quite clear(another reason I don't want to be with him) its his house(his name only) and he is not leaving, if anyone goes its me and the children:( it wont be easy my any means,i know that but i cant go on as we are:(any words of advice greatly appreciated,thank you

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Mosman · 02/04/2013 07:18

Can you talk to him before the letter arrives? Human being to human being that seems a better way to handle it.

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3stars · 02/04/2013 07:21

Yes-I was not going to just leave him to receive the letter,just not sure of his reaction:(

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Mosman · 02/04/2013 09:33

Expect the worst I guess and be prepared with as much support as you can muster

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Mosschops30 · 02/04/2013 09:50

I've just done this

It's so hard to say those words, you have to be strong and keep on being strong (this is the hardest part I've found).
There is lots of support here

Good luck, expect a whole world of shit but keep looking at that light at the end of the tunnel

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3stars · 02/04/2013 12:36

I never thought I would have to say the words:(I am awaiting the world of s*, believe me I know it will come. I just can't carry on anymore, I have given chance after chance and said a few times I won't stay for much longer-nothing changes and what makes it so hard is the way he carries on as normal as if all is ok when clearly it's not-this causes me to think I am going mad and doubt I am doing the right thing:( I am fortunate to have friends and family who will support me - I find this site so helpful, it's good just to write it down sometimes, thank you for your replies:)