Hi, I told my DH on Saturday that I wanted us to separate. I feel it's been a long time coming (years) and I have just fallen out of love with him. I was advised to suck it up and get on with it as most people feel like that, but I can't live the lie any more. I didn't help myself by doing a Bad Thing a couple of months ago which my DH found out about. I tried really hard after that, but still couldn't fall back in love with him. We have been married 10 years and have DTD's aged 8 and a DS who is 2 (a happy accident!)
He doesn't want to move out, which I understand, but I want to stay in the house with the kids. I work part time, but abroad for about 6-9 days a month. When I am away, obviously he becomes the primary carer. Am I being unreasonable to hope that he will still look after them while I am away? I try to work over weekends so his work is not disrupted, and put the little dude in nursery when I can so he only has to take a couple of hours off (his job is very flexible)
He has taken some stuff today and is not coming home tonight, but has made it clear that this is not him moving out. He is afraid that if he moves out he won't have any claim on the house - rubbish surely? I don't want to take anything unfairly, or diddle him out of anything that is rightly his. I also want him to be able to keep the fantastic relationship with his kids, he is a great dad.
I don't really know what I'm asking, just wanted to vent! And see if i am being unreasonable by wanting to stay in the house with the kids and for him to move out. The kids don't know yet. God knows what I'm going to tell them, they will be devastated
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Just told DH I want to separate.....feeling crap
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goodlifemummy · 25/03/2013 18:13
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