I'm in need of some advice.
I'm 8 months pregnant and have decided to leave my OH. It's a big decision to walk away from 4 years of marriage but I know that it just isn't right. Our relationship feels ok some daysbut mostly I feel miserable and deep down just know I'm not with the right person.
In an ideal world all this would have come out before getting pg but I things didn't seem as bad then and having had an mc before I just focused on looking forward and having a baby. Unfortunately though I now realise our relationship isn't working. I want the very best for our child and I don't want to bring a baby into a bad relationship.
My husband doesn't see it this way though. Even though he has lied to me countless times, talks to me in an incredibly dismissive way and does everything for his own gain rather than thinking of me and baby he claims to love me. He swings between being very upset about the break-up and claiming I'm controlling, stopping him from being a father etc to being very angry and shouting. Mostly he just won't accept it.
I have no intention of stopping him being a father. I want him to see his child as much as possible and I'm sure he will be a great dad. Individually I think we'll be very good parents but together we're not good. He is digging his heals in and refusing to discuss separation and all the practicalities. I feel so trapped an just don't feel like I have the strength to sort all the practical arrangements out on my own while heavily pg.
I feel like I will be stuck with him in our home living a miserable life because he won't agree to separating. Any advice on what I should do would be move appreciated.
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Advice needed - pregnant and feeling so trapped in bad relationship
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bettyblue238 · 17/03/2013 15:21
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