Just had yet another arsey conversation with my STBXH and am now left wondering whether he is right or wrong. We are about to start mediation (in about 10 days time, having only just agreed it), and have been separated since January.
This morning we had a face-to-face conversation, during which he once again claimed that I am preventing him from having a relationship with his children. This is not true - I am offering him frequent and flexible access, but because he wants to get 50-50 residency of the children post-divorce, he is refusing to see them AT ALL, claiming that what I am offering him is prejudicial to his case. I have pleaded with him to see them, to make arrangements, and he consistently refuses. Ostensibly he is still living here, although I suspect is shacking up with OW and is rarely at home.
I spoke to my lawyer about this and she has suggested that we write him a letter early next week stating my position - which is that I really do want him to see them but want to remain the primary carer of the children, as I have always been.
Stupidly this afternoon I told him that we would be writing to him next week and he has now said this is completely counter to the "rules" of mediation, and that no legal action should be taken during it. I didn't consider this to be legal action - it's just a letter setting out my position regarding this childcare issue before we start mediation. This morning he said he would front the money for my part of the mediation and has now withdrawn that offer. I have no income and even finding the money for mediation is going to be very tough - he is paying £5 per week maintenance towards his 2 children "because that's all I have to because I'm unemployed" - despite earning a high six figure salary prior to that.
Bah. I hate him.
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ladymuckbeth · 08/03/2013 20:16
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