Hi - I have been separated from my husband for about 7-8 years and have been in a new, rather wonderful, relationship for over 3 years, which may or may not end in marriage. My husband and I just drifted apart over a number of years. He was a workaholic who worked away a lot and I think I felt fairly abandoned with kids/dogs/no social life etc, etc, and then kids evolving into very difficult teenagers and having to cope with their shenanigans virtually unsupported. Anyway, with the passage of time I no longer feel so angry towards him and, although I haven't physically seen him for about a year, we have email contact usually regarding domestic arrangements and kids. I started divorce proceedings about 18 months ago which seem to have ground to a halt as he is taking a long time to come up with a financial settlement to put to me. There's no great rush anyway, but I veer between thinking it's all too much effort legally to get divorced, and feeling so incredibly guilty about him (being quite a bit older than me, and now in his early 60s) probably not having another relationship in his life, and thinking I should push harder to finalise this divorce. The guilt about him being alone is the big thing, now that he's recently retired and his whole adult life spent working so hard has virtually gone for him too.
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