H has been a big bully all the way through our 4.5 years marriage and this is also a sexless marriage. Dd was conceived before getting married and that was it.
I have been considering a divorce for a long time but couldn't find the strength to do it simply for financial matters. Our financial facts through marriage are not very straight forward since we have no joint account. Shared assets is the house we bought in 2009 which I contributed 40% of the deposit but house is under his name as he pays the mortgage.
H: never shares income, I've no idea how much he earns but my guess is at least 5k each month after tax. He should have stopped pension payment 3 years ago when we bought the house. He is self employed and have been using me for tax evasion etc.
Me: umployed, completed a master's degree when dd was 1 yr old but couldn't find a job afterwards. I have no family in this country so I can only depend on him. The tuition fee was paid from my own saving so I don't have much money left in my account right now.
I have spoken to a lawyer but he couldn't give a clear idea of the financial decisions. I've read about other people's life stories and was scared to see that the maintenance after divorce is only a couple of hundred pounds per month which will even not be enough to rent a single room in London.
Can anyone give me a clearer idea of this please? Help!
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Yinlondon · 01/03/2013 17:32
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